2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I often hear that a man should earn a lot of money, take him on vacation at least 2 times a year, give expensive gifts, flowers every week, take care, pay attention, cook food, clean the apartment and look after the children. Sometimes, detailed portraits of men are described on several A4 sheets.
What are our standards in relation to each other?
This is a set of requirements for the opposite sex. And if a man's actions do not fit into our bar, he does not suit us.
Our planks are packaging, but we somehow forget about the content. We look at external factors, but internal factors are not always taken into account. We have a set of criteria, but they prevent us from really feeling a person, seeing in a man who he is. If one of the candidates does not fit our "plank-list", there is a risk of missing a good person.
A man may not bring in a lot of money, but his earnings will be stable, and he is looking for ways to increase it. At the same time, your companion will not leave you with problems, he will help to overcome them. And at 12 at night he goes for a chocolate or juice. Such a man treats you and your children well. He may not be read and not spark a company, but he is ready to take responsibility for you and your family.
Every time he does something to keep the relationship alive. Leads a dialogue, listens and hears, draws conclusions. But at the same time, rudeness, roughness and conservatism are manifested in him.
Women have their own selection criteria, men have their own.
So everyone rushes with their own planks and do not know how to meet a life partner. In reality, the requests of some do not coincide with the requests of others.
Look at the person.
What can he give.
Does he want a relationship.
Does he care.
Does it take responsibility.
Can he be a reliable companion in your life.
Does he have dependencies.
Is it capable of physical violence?
What in a particular person you like and what you don't.
What you are willing to put up with, what you are not.
You may meet someone who does not fit 50% of the items on your plank list. However, it will manifest itself in other qualities that are much more important in family relationships.
And finally.
In practice, I come across situations when those men whom women did not pay attention to at all turned out to be worthy husbands. Their wives later said that they became very happy, having finally paid attention to their husbands. It all started with “ay, okay, there’s no one anyway,” and this man takes care of me and helps me. Did these men match the standards of women? - No. As a result, they live a joyful family life.
We draw conclusions. Every bar, like every rule, must have exceptions. First of all, look at the man, how you are with him, what he wants in relation to you, and then put your bar on him.
Do you have your own plank list? And are you ready to correct it?
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