2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I went skiing last weekend.
Wonderful ride, leisurely, for your own pleasure.
In any sports activity I am guided by my well-being.
For me, in addition to tension, it is also important to receive joy from it.
When I approached the forest, I drew attention to a boy of about 7 years old with his dad.
I overtook them and went ahead.
And then after I took pictures of the forest beauties, I lingered a little, and they overtook me.
I took a picture and drove on.
They ride in front of me. The boy is in front, and the dad is in the back.
The boy drives quietly. Small still, so that he could do it faster.
And maybe she's just learning to ski.
And dad follows him so calmly.
Not urging him on with the words "let's hurry", but just going slower.
And I felt such respect for this dad.
To the fact that he accepts his son as he is still learning skiing.
To the fact that dad calmly reacts to the fact that his son said that he was tired and wants to rest.
The boy fell into the snow and lies, resting.
And dad stands and waits for his son to rest.
And the boy's face was pleased.
And dad is rather tired.
After all, he probably has to restrain his desire to go faster.
And nevertheless, I directly felt the warmth for these two skiers.
I overtook them and drive on.
Rides in front of me another kid of the same age 7.
And slips on a small hill.
The skis are sliding. And he cannot pass it.
I offered him my help.
I tell him: "It is difficult for you to go, let me help you."
And she supported him behind his back so that he could pass this difficult section.
And in front of him, the girl was riding a little older, maybe 10 years old.
And I thought about how this kid feels when he goes after an older girl, probably a sister.
And I thought that he might be feeling weak and inept for the time being.
He may even be angry that something is not working out for him.
And he is alone with these feelings.
The girl is driving in front.
She is anxious to drive herself somehow.
She has no time for her brother.
And mom or dad is not around.
Their faces are worried, there is not even a shadow of pleasure or joy on them.
And I thought that, perhaps, these two without support, perhaps, it is more difficult to master this.
A lot of energy is spent on experiences that "something is wrong with me, I can't do it."
I felt sadness and sympathy for them …
And I also thought that it would be nice to find such a balance so that the child would feel good and the parent too.
I began to ponder how this balance could be achieved? …
After all, a parent can be bored to drive quietly.
And the child is not yet able to go fast.
And I imagined that, for example, dad said to his son: “son, I will go ahead, and you go as quietly as you can, do not rush. And I will drive a little and come back to you."
How would I be if I were my son?..
Yes, it would probably be alarming …
And someone else may not …
Or maybe dad could go ahead and give his son his sticks to hold on to. And in this way the son would learn to ski.
Or maybe this balance can be found if the parent finds something pleasant for himself in the fact that he has to go slower than he would like if he was driving alone.
Alternatively, in this slow ride, there is more opportunity to admire the winter forest and sky.
Or think slowly about something, like me …)))
Probably, for everyone, their options will be suitable.
It seems to me that it is important that in them it would be emotionally good for both the parent and the child.
So that the interests of both one and the other would be taken into account.
After all, parents often have to do something for the child and with him. And it seems to me that if you find something interesting not only for the child, but also for yourself, then everyone will only get better from this.
And in general, this topic is important not only in the relationship between parents and children, but in the joint affairs of different people: in marriage, in a couple, between adult parents and adult children, etc.
How do you manage to find a balance in a relationship so that everyone's interests are taken into account?
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