2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In other words, are feelings still warm?
If the couple is no longer alive, therapy is also indicated. In this case, she helps to realize that feelings can no longer be resurrected and accurately, environmentally friendly exit from the relationship in order to remain the parents of their children and save them from unnecessary trauma.
Today we'll talk about how you can kindle the faint flame of the lamp, if the feelings are still warm.
So, people love each other and, at the same time, they are very annoying.
How does this happen?
I will give an example
The spouse said that the wife had recovered, and the woman replied that her husband earned little and off they'd go:
"And you?", "Look at yourself!", "What are you like?", "Shut your mouth!", "Fuck you.."
And now, two apparently intelligent people went hand-to-hand at each other!
There can be countless such examples:
Why is this possible?
The conjugal holon is a single organism. It includes people who have had a different upbringing and very different life experience, not to mention the ethnic and social affiliation of parental families.
Each spouse has his own picture of the world: if for a husband, say that his wife has recovered, simply state the fact, according to the principle "what I see, then I sing", then for a spouse it may be an "Achilles heel", a trauma.
She already further "tightens up" his message with approximately the following inner monologue:
“He said that I had recovered, which means he considers me fat and ugly, which means that he does not love me, and I gave him my best years, gave birth and raised children, and also always worked, and he was not grateful, he always earned so little …"
And for the husband, the reproach of his wife for low earnings means that:
"She does not respect me, does not appreciate me as a man, does not want, despises, mocks me …"
At one of the sessions, I came up with a special agreement to regulate words and actions that can hurt.
I just downloaded the “blank” of the prenuptial agreement from the Internet and removed from it everything related to the financial component, movable and immovable property and everything that is not included in my “diocese”.
How to fill out such an agreement?
As simple as any other contract
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