2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Many people live with little knowledge of their resources, strength, missions and goals. Inside, they carry suffering and pain, a habitual survival strategy. It feels like you are sleeping with your eyes open, and sometimes they say: “I feel that I am not living my life. It's like I'm not the one who makes the decisions. Sometimes you get the impression that I am deliberately destroying everything in my life."
It has nothing to do with the disorder, multiple personality disorder, or schizophrenia. These are the adopted feelings and the adopted states, exactly what the family constellation method works with.
Many, out of fear that they will be labeled “sick,” sit in their boxes, wasting the time of their lives to bear the pain of others and remain faithful to all the victims in their system, or vice versa, trying to save all the victims in their system. These are exclusively unconscious strategies of behavior, based on them, a person even chooses a profession, a place of work or a partner for himself.
It is very difficult and time-consuming to identify them in personal psychotherapy, but they manifest themselves well in the family Field, at the systemic level.
In individual work, everything happens at the personal level, rarely does anyone go deeper - at least to the parental level, but there is also the level of grandparents, generic, systemic, spiritual. And all this simultaneously lives and coexists within us.
For example, difficulties and chronic conflicts in relationships: misunderstanding, deception, betrayal or loneliness.
The problem can pass through several layers and a dozen of unconscious behavioral strategies are intertwined with generic prohibitions.
- at the parental level - perhaps a man or a woman is carrying the "pain of a mother" without suspecting anything about it.
- at the level of grandfathers and grandmothers - a person often yearns or grieves in a relationship, even if the partner has soaked out obvious nonsense.
- at the generic level - of course, generic prohibitions, when a person develops the skill of working with his Field, he, in principle, can easily read them from himself: “life is unhappy without a loved one,” “love is not eternal,” “without a man, a woman is incomplete "," Men are dangerous "," all men / women betray "and a few hundred more prohibitions.
- at the systemic level - possibly difficult stories of losses and murders based on love, sex, betrayal, and all these have become family secrets that continue to affect your current relationship or their complete absence.
- on the spiritual level - the tasks facing men and women in the system, but they do not see them point-blank and run away from them like the devil from incense. This triggers repetitive life scenarios - bad luck in marriages, loneliness, betrayal, betrayal - until finally someone stops and says, “That's it, stop. I am ready to look at my tasks in relationships with men or women!"
When a specialist masters the family constellation method, he works simultaneously on all these layers. It is clear that the client is making great progress in such work, because the system includes what was excluded and the energy that was blocked at a deep unconscious level is released. Contact with resources, strength, goals and objectives is restored.
So, what are the advantages of the family constellation method:
- The ability to heal inner pain at a deep unconscious level
- The ability to search for a solution to a problem at the field level, i.e. deep in the unconscious
- Unconscious behavioral strategies that more hindered and destroyed a person become visible, conscious and are transformed into strategies that move a person in his request for a solution.
- The system includes what was excluded, a person has access to energy and resources that were previously blocked
- A person changes the quality of his weaves, in which he no longer loses, but gains access to new understanding, new knowledge and new strategies of behavior.
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