2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There are millions of tips on how to build relationships with men, they are poured from screens, glamorous magazines, conversations with girlfriends. Often these tips are incompatible with reality, because they are general, formulaic for everyone. They do not explain anything about the World of Men, and even more so about the World of Women.
Social stereotypes persistently squeeze a woman into the limited world of cuisine, everyday life, children, or simply into a survival game. And if you ask such a woman about her tasks, her Path or points of growth, she will only shrug her shoulders.
When a woman gives up her path and her strength, she quickly gives up. Yesterday, she was beautiful, slender with glowing eyes, dreams and ideas, and today - with a load of trouble, with drooping shoulders, an extra 20 kg, who betrayed all her dreams. And a man, yesterday still - interesting and active, and today - a stranger and cold, hanging on the Internet.
The feeling of emptiness and uselessness grows stronger every year, and guilt hides behind colds, chronic symptoms and diseases.
In a relationship, a woman and a man are often separated by frustration and loneliness. And this is the hardest thing to see.
I remember well one married couple. She became pregnant a second time, her husband delivered an ultimatum: either an abortion or a divorce. She followed the wishes of her husband, trying to keep the relationship. But there was already an abyss between them. But neither he nor she felt it. I asked her about their first meeting. Her eyes flashed, she cheered up: "he was so wonderful, generous and kind." She described an inner image that had lived in her soul for years and which had nothing to do with reality. "Sweet and kind" would hardly have given an ultimatum. She dreamed of castles in the air and a pink elephant, well, everything is like in TV shows, so that like everyone else. Her illusions quickly crumbled, and she was afraid to admit this even to herself.
What was she really looking for in this man?
When I asked her who was behind the image "sweet, generous, kind and affectionate." She looked up at me in surprise.
- So this is a child!
Often a woman enters into a relationship already stuck in some of her inner roles - "victim", "bitch", "savior", "snow queen", "girl", "mother". It is from internal roles that she builds external relations. Moreover, a man is chosen one who has the same role on the inner plane. And if two are stuck in the internal roles of "girl" and "boy", then the ultimatum "either me or divorce" is more than appropriate.
What can you do about it?
- Understand which of your internal roles is leading
- Bring this role to the level of awareness of how it manifests itself in your behavior in the external world.
Tip 1. Capriciousness, manipulation, female tricks and ultimatums have nothing to do with female wisdom. They are about something else.
Tip 1. "Girl" will always come to "boy". But in reality she is looking for another.
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