Why Are Men And Women Offended In Different Ways?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Men and women experience grievances in completely different ways, primarily due to the fact that they have different missions in life, a man needs to survive, and a woman's main goal is to continue the race. Even in childhood, these differences begin to appear.

Boys begin from childhood to build and adjust their individual way of survival, and all this happens in the process of competition. Remember how boys gamble in football, but someone becomes a striker, someone is a defender, someone is a goalkeeper, and someone is a spectator. And such an approach among the representatives of the masculine gender in everything, respectively, each develops his own individual system of survival, some use strength, others dexterity, and others use logic, the result is boys learn to predict and repeatedly check their experience. Because if the forecast coincides with reality, then the person gets satisfaction. It is this individual system of survival that is the basis of character, which is fixed and can only be supplemented with the passage of time and the acquisition or development of the necessary qualities. Therefore, men do not change in life. They say about them "There is a core in it"

Girls have a different mission and therefore they develop a completely different sphere, they learn to feel and experience. This is very clearly seen in the games of children. If a boy identifies himself with some kind of toy, for example, a spider-man, at the moment of the game it is he who jumps, performs feats, etc. Girls play more at their mother, that is, they treat the toy as an object of experience. And since nature is a big inventor, women, plus their emotionality, are also very changeable, her mood can change several times a day, if not more often. With predictions and rules under such circumstances, the situation is, to put it mildly, not very good, since a woman has a very poorly developed sense of choice and refusal. It is very difficult for women to deny themselves, they want to lose weight and eat a cake. Plus, every woman, by default, considers herself the one and only, and a little queen, or a star. And the fact that a man is not able to understand is a matter of course for a woman. If yesterday she said that an urgent need to put a net on the balcony, today it is more important for her to hang a shelf in the bathroom, and a man, to the comment that “You said the net yourself yesterday,” gets quite a concrete answer “When was that, you would still remember what I said a year ago / I, of course, exaggerate a little, but still /. For a woman, the determining factor is the benefit at the moment, and the quality. This corresponds, first of all, to its main goal.

It is because of these differences that we take offense in completely different ways. If a man does not fulfill some of his expectations, he will certainly be annoyed, but since he made the forecast himself, then he is to blame. This means that you will also have to correct the situation yourself, accordingly, worry and blame yourself, this means wasting energy, in vain, you need to correct, that is, do something or, as an option, do nothing so that it does not get worse.

A woman initially understands that she does not want to blame herself, especially since she is a star, and it is difficult to deny herself something, begins to look for someone to blame. Naturally, there is a man nearby, which means that he is to blame. She is not offended by the mosquito that bit her at night, she blames the man who, while hanging the shelf in the bathroom, did not put the net on the balcony. Here is the most interesting thing, when you ask a woman “Why are you offended?”, She answers “Not why, but why.” Here women are cunning, because it is beneficial for them, because if they are guilty, then they must atone for their guilt, and in what way she will come up with it herself, with fantasy in women is much better than in men. If a man does not accept guilt, then immediately there is an appeal to society and morality - "Look, good people, what a goat" The consequences can be different, but the most destructive for a woman is the moment when she herself begins to fully believe in her grievances. In other words, she herself convinces herself that something has not been given to her. And over time, it begins to feel like a victim. And life is a very responsive thing and a moment comes when, indeed, even more, if not everything, is taken from a woman. The tale of the goldfish is a classic example, the old woman could not refuse, blamed the old man, the result was a broken trough. The stereotype of thinking about the transfer of guilt is a very tempting thing, for some it is even difficult to think that it is possible to behave differently, but here everyone chooses for himself.

There is one more point that concerns exactly benefits and resentment. Recently, many men have also begun to use a similar model, in other words, they have become obsessed. In my opinion, this is happening because such men have begun to lose global goals in life, and morality is increasingly replacing morality. In other words, the opinion of others becomes more important than the character of a person. And the use of such models by men allows them, in the shortest possible time, as it seems to them, to achieve what they want. But life is fun and the boomerang principle has not been canceled. Sometimes, it is worth thinking about what consequences in the future you will have to pay for actions in the present.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.