2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Deception as an element of the relationship between a man and a woman in society is condemned everywhere. But it continues to exist. People have learned to find an excuse for this, remember at least "lies for salvation." There can be really many reasons for this phenomenon, but today the conversation is precisely about why men lie to their women. Let's try to consider one of the implicit aspects of this behavior of men.
“Why is he deceiving me?” - this question is asked by women very often. Trying to answer it, they often put forward various hypotheses, which usually end with the statement "He does not love me." In fact, not everything is as bad as you might imagine. It happens that men develop the habit of deceiving their woman for no seemingly compelling reason. Sometimes this behavior of a man is very annoying to a woman. After all, as one of the heroes of the cinema says: "You cannot deceive Baba, she senses in her heart."
One of the reasons for this attitude of a man is his childhood. Communication with a strict mother, who was prone to accusations and punishments for the smallest offense, plus her example of communicating with him (when he was deceived, and at the same time the lie was for the good of the cause, as they say). In such a relationship, as a rule, the boy did not receive the acceptance that he subconsciously expected. Gradually, the boy began to form an understanding that accusations can be avoided if the whole truth is not told. Moreover, the main thing is precisely accusations, not punishments. As I wrote, already in previous articles, men tolerate feelings of guilt very, very badly. And this behavior of the mother was based on the fact that guilt was chosen as a tool of upbringing, but rather a manipulation. Still not realizing this, the boy strove to receive charges as rarely as possible. Subsequently, this formed a habit, and he took it with him into adulthood, and into his relationship with a woman.
Undoubtedly, this is not the only reason that men cheat women. But, in my opinion, one of the leading, especially among socialized men. Often men feel fear of being blamed, sometimes this is masked by the fact that a man says that he does not want to offend a woman, that she should not know about all his problems, in fact, it is a fear that he will be judged and he will feel guilty. A man himself is able to get rid of this habit, however, an indispensable condition for this is the level of relationship in couples. When a woman “allows” a man the right to make a mistake, to her own vision of the situation and actions, accepts that a man may be right, then most likely the lie will leave the relationship. If a man begins to understand that he is being accepted and they are trying to understand, then he ceases to make excuses, that is, to feel guilty. And this saves him from the need to deceive. Trust is an important part of a relationship, which is based not only on expectations of something from a partner, but also on acceptance of his views.
Often, people's behavior is governed by something that they cannot or do not want to accept and understand, but when this acceptance and understanding comes, then a person is already able to draw more effective conclusions and use new information for his own benefit.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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