2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How to live your life gradually - not to heap all the pleasures and joys of the world into one heap, but to savor this process piece by piece, sequentially?
I involuntarily understand about haste in deep youth and slowing down in an older age. After all, slowing down means that I really enjoy living my life.
Slowing down is about enjoying the process, it is about the fact that I will not "eat" everything that is offered on the table, even if all the dishes are very nice to me. I will choose and enjoy slowly. Slowing down is about the perceived value - the value of every moment when I am not flying headlong, grabbing everything on the fly with the words: “Maybe it’s useful,” and then throw it away as unnecessary. Rather, it is about the fact that I walk, approach, consider the proposed from all sides, sniff, try on, try to feel myself next to this object, event, person …
After all, from a certain period, it is not the quantity that becomes valuable, but the quality of life, the depth of pleasure. At some point, I start using the formula: "Maximum pleasure per unit of time."
The past formula about slipping through time in pursuit of imaginary values gradually fades into the background, because I saw that I did not enjoy using this formula.
If I skip moments and do not stop to feel the taste of life, I will never feel it, no matter how much I have. If I do not leave myself time to enjoy and enjoy what I have, from what I do, from what I receive, I simply will not be able to understand what I need, I will not be able to feel myself receiving pleasure….
What kind of pleasure am I? How do I deal with this?
And in order to answer myself these questions, I do not throw all the delights of life into one bag. I prefer to do everything gradually…. Rather, I'm learning this.
I enjoy the vacation preparation process …
I enjoy communicating with a client …
I enjoy reading the book and many other things …
The main thing is not to mix. You can't think about plans for tomorrow or about your son's problems at school while talking to a client. After all, it is at such moments that the overshoot of life is obtained. It turns out that I am not in such periods either here or there. I am not with a client and I am not with my son. I am not involved in any of these processes and therefore I cannot get satisfaction from the activity. After all, I am not doing anything completely. I am in a state of "under" …
This state of dissatisfaction provokes me to move on in search of those things that could satisfy me - those that would make me feel fulfilled. But no, all further searches await the same fate. It turns out that running away to something automatically leads to running away from something - from yourself about your opportunity to enjoy the process and get pleasure.
The ability to notice yourself and your state in a unit of time leads to a more intense experience. After all, pleasure is born not from the thing of the material world, which supposedly brings it to us, but it is born just from our own perception of the world, owning this thing, or from oneself with this object, or from oneself using this thing. And it turns out if we do not give ourselves the opportunity to receive feedback from ourselves, that is, to answer the question to ourselves: "How do I now?" "What am I feeling now?" "What happens in my life when I enjoy the sunset from my own window?" "What am I when I realize that something belongs to me?" "How do I feel?" If we do not ask ourselves these questions, we have no way to check what exactly gives us pleasure.
If I run headlong and take everything mixed up from life, then I certainly feel in a state of disharmony, I cannot track how this or that event affects my state, because there are many of them, track the influence of each and the reaction to it very difficult. For example, I'm preparing for vacation, looking for tiles, getting my child ready for school, writing an article, making an appointment, reading a book, planning expenses, and much more …
Yes, I can do all this in a unit of time. This is all very nice. But! Why am I confused? Why am I not satisfied? Why can't I enjoy? Because I do not live each of these events 100%. I live one thing, I already think about another. I'm doing the third, I'm already planning the fourth.
Therefore, there is a constant unfinished action. As if in real life it is completed, but in my inner world, I seem to give up my living of the moment halfway through. Having cooked borscht, I do not enjoy its taste, but when I eat it, I think about the child's lessons. Helping the child with the lessons, I am not there 100%, but already planning my schedule. When I write an article, even here I cannot be fully involved, although I can already praise myself for making inclusion in my own life a habit. So, when writing an article, I have a huge number of ideas about the following notes.
I stop, take a deep breath in and out, and go back to the sentence. I let go of my thoughts with the confidence that when the moment is right, they will return to me, and I can enjoy them to the fullest. I will live each of them, but in turn.
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