2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Recently I heard a phrase from my mother (I don't remember who her real author is): “You can take advice on upbringing from those people who have managed to raise two generations of healthy, successful, harmonious descendants, that is, children and grandchildren. And it is in this case that one can judge the presence of life wisdom and rich experience, and feel free to take a list of recommendations."
Immediately pride - slap - below the plinth)))
In general, the topic of "sharing experience" is interesting. Who do we turn to for help? A shaggy hairdresser and a not-so-cute beautician?
I have practiced a lot and for a long time in a narcological dispensary. And there is a frequent topic “what can you tell me ?!”, and in addition, wise, wise sad eyes. Like, you mortals cannot understand what withdrawal is, what human suffering is. And only one participant once objected in the group: “Why understand something? How do the joints twist and hurt everything? Well, almost everyone has it when the temperature is high, or you are very sick. But the truth is, who do we need when we want help?
And here are the conclusions I come to when looking at my experience and the experience of clients:
- if you want to live in prosperity and earn good money, - learn from someone who knows how and does it well, and not just “understands you” what it is like to eat some pasta;
- if you want to be cured, or at least to pacify the illness, - learn from someone who manages to live without illness, watch him, what he (does not) do, unlike you, how he treats life that does not get sick much;
- if you want to get rid of addictions - learn from someone who knows how to relax and be happy, watch him and write down!
- if you want to have a family and strong relationships, - learn from those who have been married for 20-30 years or more;
- if you want to lose weight - learn from the slim and thin;
I think the main point is clear. Of course, the support of a brother in misfortune is good and encouraging, helps to live through shame and guilt. But we can see some important things, lessons from other people who have what we want.
The main thing is to calm your pride (with both the + and - signs), and be very attentive. And all the most necessary and important will be revealed to us through other people.
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