A Little, For An Adequate Consultation Of A Coach And Psychologist

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

1… How can you be contacted?

Coach: "my name is Artem Dmitrievich Parshukov"

We dictate the rules of the game. It does not matter how old both interlocutors are (communicate only through "you")

Client: "my name is Elena Vladimirovna"

• "Helen" - does not roll, you need a name + patronymic (no diminutive variants).
• We position ourselves as rule-makers.

2 … Do you mind if I tell you a few words about myself?

• Why are you cool in the subject.
• List of your regalia. What are the awards.
• How many years of experience.
• Who are your customers.
• It does not last long for 2-3 minutes. Need to rehearse.
• If there are no regalia, then we create regalia.
• We are writing a book.
• We join communities.
• Regalia must be appropriate. If you are a psychologist, then the regalia of a psychologist.

3… Why did you agree to the consultation and what do you expect from the consultation and from me?

• What problems do you want to get rid of? What's stopping you?
• Why do you need to get rid of the described problems?
• Digging to the true tasks. Why do you need this?
• At least three layers of answers need to be passed by the questions, "and for what?".

Coach: "You came for a massage, why?"

Client: "Well, I just want to have a massage."

Coach: "Why?"

Client: "Neck pain."

Coach: "Why do you need it right now, what exactly is it interfering with now?"

Client: "Well, because I have insomnia because of this!"

Coach: "And why do you want to get rid of insomnia?"

Client: "I come to work broken and because of this I am not promoted at work."

Coach: "We have achieved: the real challenge is not to be shattered by the neck."

We have broken through the surface ego defenses to the core of the request

4 … Why didn't you do it yourself, didn't solve your request, on your own?

• We listen to complaints, stories …
• Legends about fate, or lack of time …
• At least 5 reasons "why not" … did not do, did not correct, did not learn, etc.

5 … When is it needed? Formulate exactly what you want and in what time frame?

For most people are inadequate in desires and do not know what, when they want

Client: “I need 2 mil. Teach it now, you are a specialist."

Let's find out the terms! We give them real terms, not crazy ones

For example, 2 mil. For 2 days it is unrealistic, we tell them about it, but if we see that the request is not adequate, then we stop it and refuse to work with it.

We sift out the left-wing people

No, I need 2 million in a week. Forgive me, but I will not undertake this.

6 … What happens if you don't change?

(won't you lose weight? will you not be cured? will you not become rich?)

• 5 consequences of what happens if: …
• What bad will happen if he does not do what he discussed with you …
• Let him honestly tell the consequences to himself and to you …

7 … I cannot do it, but I can half the result / time

For example

Client: "I want to make $ 100,000 in a month."

Coach: "Based on what I have learned from you, I will help you either 50,000 in a month or 100,000 in 2 months."

This is a test of trust, faith in you …

If he says: I need it faster … We don't work with him.

Even if step 5 is an easy task for you. We still halve the result. From what I have learned, I can half as much. Either he believes you and move on, or he does not believe, we say goodbye and do not comfort him with illusions

8 … Work plan in Coaching

Describe more broadly. With general strokes, we show what we are going to do

Process logic in Coaching:

First we … And then this … Then this … And then this … And then, we will deal with your situation …

9 … The price of coaching is = X (for example, $ 10,000)

Where did you get this money? Adequacy check

Most of them say postponed, saved up, a loan is normal, but some may say - I'll borrow from the mother of a pensioner or mortgage an apartment … It's a question of your personal morality, who will you take …

10 … You will run into problems

• We list the problems that a person will face, a list: if losing weight, it will be difficult for you not to run up to the refrigerator at night …
• Honestly, all the side problems.

11 … Why do you trust me?

The person should start praising you! If not, this is strange, most likely the person does not consciously act, and therefore there may be problems

12… Summing up

We go back to the beginning and check:

• So once again, you are with us: "Irina Viktorovna"
• I told about myself …
• You agreed to a consultation to resolve such and such problems.
• You, you need this then, then this, then that …
• We couldn't do it ourselves, because that's why …
• You need it at such and such a time …
• Specifically, you want this and that …
• If you do not get this, then you will have such and such problems … I warned you …
• But we swami agreed that I could do less or longer …
• Accordingly, you have a plan, what we will do, you know …
• You know the price … You have money …
• You told me why you trust me …

13… Why should I take you to Coaching?

• The task is for a person to start giving you promises: I am responsible … I will do … I will work on assignments … I can handle …
• If a person already at the start does not believe in success, then in the process of joint work, he will blame all his success …

14… We connect our employee

I personally do not take money. The client approaches - we transfer to the employee. You will solve money issues with him, and we will start, we will see you at the appointed time

For financial red tape will begin there … The client can say: I can't do everything at once, I will pay part now, and then again, and so on. etc., and then you yourself will call him: “Hello, have you received the money yet?

• Your coolness at this moment drops to zero. You are like a beggar beggar …
• You don't touch money.
• The coach helps, changes the world, everything earthly, not for him …
• A coach is not an accountant, he does not run money.
• Although if we are talking about a small amount, then okay. But if we are talking about large amounts, then you should not touch money.
• A coach is always above money, he changes the world, transforms people. He creates!
• How can you charge dearly if you do not have employees, assistants? If you are not represented with thematic groups in social. networks? If you are a multi-stationer. A walking organizer! It won't work!

The director of "Coca-Cola" himself does not pour "cola" into bottles … Because at one fine moment, self-sabotage will arise and you will not care about everything, you will choke on the routine …

• We need a team of professionals, where everyone understands what he is doing.
• We set plans, who, what, will lead in your company.
• Etc.