Women's Beliefs Are Killing Relationships With A Man

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Every person has beliefs, regardless of gender or age. In fact, people need them to live. Some of them are certainly useful, but there are those that, to put it mildly, bring a lot of trouble into a person's life. Beliefs are formed under the influence of various factors: this is the parental environment, and life experience, and the influence of society. The problem, in my opinion, is that people sometimes perceive their beliefs as something unchanging. Although life itself shows that everything that surrounds a person is constantly in the process of changing.

In a relationship between a man and a woman, the beliefs of partners play a very important role. An aggravation of the situation occurs when conflicts begin in a couple that arise after a period of euphoria and chemical love. Today we are talking about some of the female beliefs (about men later) that can really kill a relationship when it goes through a crisis.

In my opinion, the most destructive thing is not a woman's desire to understand a man, which is characterized by the following phrase: "Let him understand me, not me." It's the same old story about a man owing a woman. The position is quite widespread and, as a rule, ultimately only leads to a deterioration in relations.

When problems arise in a relationship, people decide that the point is precisely to change what is causing inconvenience now, to remove one small detail and everything will fall into place. But, as a rule, these attempts do not bring the desired result. In my opinion, it would be more effective to remember when these problems started. Often, a man used to react to a woman's manipulations in the form of offenses, bringing gifts, showing other signs of attention, and then suddenly changed and stopped doing it. Maybe he's just tired of being manipulated? The easiest way to find out is to ask the man directly. But often women are afraid of frank conversations on such topics, because they are afraid to hear the truth.

Another fairly stable pattern is a woman's phrase: "I do so much for him, but he does not appreciate." Of course, it is not pleasant if the partner does not appreciate and does not notice what the woman is doing. But if you look at the situation from the other side and ask the question "Does he really need it?" Strange as it may seem, people tend to decide for others what they need and what they don't. This approach also suggests that in a couple of difficulties with trust, one cannot ask, and the other is afraid to say. What one considers to be overvalued, for another, means little and may be completely unnecessary to him.

A woman, as a rule, notices that there is something wrong in a couple based on how the man began to treat her. It is the changes in the partner that come to the fore for the woman. At the same time, it is extremely rare for ladies to pay attention to themselves. Looking for the cause in a man seems to them to be the most effective method of solving the problem. But after all, in the overwhelming majority of situations, a person himself creates an attitude towards himself. It is the behavior of a person, his actions, words that form the other's attitude towards him. Without these prerequisites, it is impossible to form an opinion about the other. And the attitude of a man to a woman is most often based on what information and how it conveys to the man. And often women begin to change their reactions to the man's behavior, instead of changing their own behavioral patterns.

A crisis in a relationship may not necessarily be difficult, but for this both a man and a woman need to be honest and open, both in relation to each other and in relation to themselves.

Live with joy!

Anton Chernykh.