2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The choice of a partner for women is not a difficult question, but an important one. It becomes especially relevant in a situation where a lady has already had an experience of unsuccessful relationships with a man, and more than once. There is a lot of talk about the fact that a man should correspond to some ideal, be "real" and everything in this spirit. In my opinion, a man needs to be just an adult, although this also applies to women. So who is a grown man, and how is he different from the rest? In this matter, the concept of age has absolutely nothing to do with it.
In my subjective opinion, a man can be considered an adult when he has exactly his vector of movement. And not only in achieving a woman, but in life. This is the kind of dedication that a man shows in the outside world to achieve some results in business, in a career, in sports, in creativity. The sphere is not so important, the really significant trait of an adult man will be his sincere passion for what he does.
It is quite normal for an adult man to take responsibility not only for his relationship with a woman, but also for what happens in his life besides that. In other words, a man is responsible for what results he achieves. At the same time, he is not inclined, without reason, to blame only circumstances for failures. He is responsible for those subordinates that he has, for relationships with clients and for the results of his work. For the conditions in which he lives. And he takes it for granted, since it is his deliberate choice.
An adult and emotionally mature man does not have much time for idleness. He has his own interests, and not always related to work or business, on which he spends his time. This does not mean that he does not want to waste time communicating with a woman, if he is really interested in a woman, he is happy to spend it with her.
An adult man has already completed the process of separation from his parents. He will not live with his mother, justifying this behavior with some beautiful and pitiful stories. He understands that for his own development it is better for him to live separately. Such a man closely monitors the degree of interference in his life by his parents, and, if necessary, can defend his internal boundaries.
In a relationship with a woman, an adult man does not feel the desire to assert himself at her expense. But at the same time, he is not interested in entering into confrontation with a woman and trying to prove something to her. He doesn't need a relationship game. He reacts weakly to the woman's attempts to provoke him and check his attitude towards her. He has no desire to be a means for a woman to achieve her goals. He is looking for and wants a relationship with the woman with whom they will be happy. He will not make her happy (save her from loans, save her from loneliness), because he believes that the responsibility for happiness lies with the woman too. Such a man accepts and understands that a woman can have a different emotional state, but at the same time he does not refuse to build a relationship with her and support her when necessary. He expects the same attitude towards himself. His desire to be happy together, understanding and supporting each other.
Emotional maturity or immaturity of a man largely influences the quality of the relationship in a couple. But do not forget the saying about the beam in her own eye, when a woman says that she needs a grown man, it’s good for her to answer herself to the question “Am I an adult?”
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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