2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A man, let's call him K., came to the consultation and shared his fears about the possible betrayal of his wife.
In his words:
"My wife works in a 70% male department. I'm afraid she's having an affair with some of them. We've been married for 11 years and have a daughter."
Me: "What caused your fears?"
K.: Recently, sex between us has become rare, I get little warmth and affection from her. She seemed to have moved away from me. So I think, maybe she started an affair with someone?
I know from your articles that you are helping to interpret dreams. Today, for example, I had a dream. And it seems to be trifling, but for some reason it is spinning in my head ….
Me: "Tell me."
K.: "My wife and I sleep together in our bed, but I feel cold, it chills to the bone. It's summer outside the window, I can't understand what is going on. I reach out to the window, pull the curtain aside, and I see it in the wall of our bedroom under the windowsill there is a hole through which the wind blows, which usually happens before a thunderstorm. I remember waking up from the anxiety that gripped me. Then I caught my breath, calmed down. I saw my wife next to her, sleeping. He clung closer to her, hugged her. What could all this mean?"
Me: "That is, you saw in a dream a hole through which the heat leaves your bedroom to the side?" - I paraphrased his words.
The man understood the association, smiled: “Yes, that is why I felt an unpleasant cold in my dream, I froze. I ask my wife to hug me and warm me with her warmth, but she refuses and says that she does not like veal tenderness. that my wife is cheating on me?"
Me: "Dreams reflect not so much our reality as our fears, fears, secret desires. The fact that in a dream you felt a cold, unpleasant for yourself, may indicate the presence of disturbing, unpleasant thoughts about cheating on your wife. However, this is not at all an indicator of that. It happens that over the years the attraction weakens, the existing stimuli are not enough for full arousal. It's good that you thought about it. Your sleep is an indicator of beginning problems in your family system. A sign that a dialogue with wife, change of the established way of life ".
К.: "Yes, you are right, my wife often complained to me about boredom, that she wants active rest, drive, emotions …".
Me: "Boredom is the" rust "that eats away at the relationship. Here is the answer to what you need to work on in your relationship with your wife."
The decision, which the man came to during our joint discussion, completely satisfied him.
Hopefully, the boredom in their relationship will dissipate and everything will work out.
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