2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The child digs with a scoop in the sandbox. The sun warms up.
He needs wet sand to make a paste. There is no wet sand.
The child continues to dig. The sun is hotter. The sand is dry, no matter how much you dig. The child is thirsty. The sun is at its zenith. Now there is no time for the beads. You have to survive. Something needs to be done.
The child really needs love. And that's all. His emotionality, his Self has not yet acquired logical thinking, the ability to reflect and analyze.
The child cannot acknowledge the parent's inability to experience love. He has nothing to withstand such frustration, so he decides to act. This brave warrior scoop and bucket earns love for himself: invents and / or tries to earn it.
He comes up with mirages with fountains and camels, he thinks that the occasional wind-blown spray that fell on his skin is somehow connected with his efforts, and not with the change of cyclones in the upper atmosphere.
He is not able to see himself from the outside. He cannot appreciate how hopeless and pitiful his scoop is from the point of view of hydrology. Therefore, he does not despair.
He's probably not digging hard enough, or maybe in the wrong place or without the proper attitude. Now, if he was of the opposite sex, or with blue eyes, or more intelligent, then there would be water, right?
One day the scoop will break and become scared. There is nothing more to get love, which means there is no chance to quench your thirst.
People with broken scoops come to therapy for instruments. The analyst gives a helicopter, a drilling rig, ladders, shovels, excavators, an astrolabe, frames, maps and they work until a child who grew up in the desert is convinced that he grew up in the desert, that there is no water, that he is for this not involved.
There was no water here not because he was "not like that", not because because of him it didn’t come, there was no water not as a punishment for him, but because it was a DESERT.
Rising by helicopter, it is very sad to look at the huge pits, trenches and craters, because you realize how much effort, how long it took to extract love.
Then the person leaves the desert and gradually moves to other climatic zones. He finds water in one form or another: a spontaneous geyser, a quiet lake, a warm puddle, an immense ocean - and is surprised that a scoop was not needed at all to extract water.
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