2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When parents think about upbringing, the last thing they think about is how to raise a happy woman from a daughter.
Many parents are preoccupied with anything for their daughter - education, success, career, a rich husband, but not happiness, simple female happiness.
Although everything that they do, they do only from one motive - for the happiness of their own child.
It is really important for a boy to be successful, purposeful. responsible.
It is important for a girl to be able to be just a Woman.
If a woman feels a Woman in herself, then she cannot be unhappy.
Of course, in order not to suppress the female state given by nature, the mother, first of all, herself needs to feel her inner woman in herself. From the very beginning, choose a good husband and father for your daughter.
To be able to maintain your inner state, to be able to take care of it and be able to maintain a healthy atmosphere in your home and family.
We have already said that when a child is born there are no differences in the approaches of upbringing up to 1 year.
This is a period of unconditional love and a period when it is very important that all of the child's needs are met.
During this period, the child needs safety, first of all, in food, warmth, attention and tactile sensations. Cuddle your child as often as possible, talk to him, love and admire him.
The mother in the first months should dissolve in the child.
If a child receives information about the world as a generous and always giving everything, then in the future, in life, he will always have a positive attitude towards life.
There will be no need to treat success as something to be gained as a result of great physical and emotional effort.
It is the mother who is that generous and giving world for the child.
In the period up to a year, the foundation of the relationship to oneself and the world is laid.
When the baby begins to grow up, by the age of 3, her father begins to exert a great influence on her and, in general, the climate and relations in the family, the distribution of roles.
Mothers need to be very careful about how she treats her husband.
It is not always possible to trace your attitude towards her husband on the mind, very often a woman does not even understand how on the subtle plane she does not accept a man.
If, deep in the unconscious, a woman does not respect and does not accept a man, then these attitudes will be passed on to her daughter.
Not always, such an attitude towards a man is hidden, very often a mother, disappointed in men, begins to speak unflatteringly about men in general or specifically about her husband.
No matter how you treat men, if you want to raise a happy woman from your daughter, then try to change your attitude towards men for the sake of your daughter's future.
If there is no respectful attitude in your family, you do not respect your husband, and even if you openly humiliate him, then the girl will treat men in the same way.
Very often mothers say that a woman should be independent from a man, have her own income, so that if something happens she can provide for herself.
Such words lay the foundation for the fact that a young woman will strive for independence and will not be able to build a good family.
The other extreme is not very good either, when upbringing goes aside, that you need to successfully get married and be married like a stone wall. In this case, the girl will grow into a helpless and dependent woman.
For happiness, a person should have everything in life - a good job, a family, health, and hobbies.
Many mothers, emphasizing the importance of the husband providing for the family, but not teaching their daughters how a woman and her husband should behave in order for him to be successful, do not teach how to inspire men to make money.
An unhappy woman in love is unlikely to be able to raise a daughter who will be happy with her husband.
Another very important point in raising a daughter.
A girl from 3-4 years old begins to experience tender and reverent feelings for her father, she tries to do everything to get the attention and love of her father.
It is very important here that the girl's father treats his daughter tenderly and reverently, raising a little princess in her soul.
The role of the father is not limited to this.
To treat a little daughter with love and tenderness is one, important moment of his influence on his daughter, another moment of his relationship to his mother.
If the girl sees the respectful attitude of the father towards her mother, she will see how the father cares and loves the mother, then the mother in this case will be an object for her to follow, she will strive to be like her mother in order to receive the same love of her father for herself, and in the future, the same attitude of her husband towards herself.
Through the attitude of the father to her and the attitude of the father to his wife and women in general, the future woman forms an attitude towards herself as a woman.
As the father relates to the mother, so the girl will relate to her inner woman, to the fact that she is a woman.
The girl, seeing the love of her father for her mother, will strive to copy her mother in order to receive the love of her father, and she will also develop a conviction that she needs to be the same in order to receive the same love from her husband.
If the mother is raising her daughter alone, then it is important that the mother has a father or one of the older male relatives. The girl will absorb the attitude of older relatives or peers to her mother.
Even if you are divorced from your husband, still try to have a good and respectful relationship between you and your ex-spouse.
And do not forget that your attitude towards a man is also important.
If in the upbringing of a boy you need to focus him on achievements and movement.
Then in the upbringing of girls, one does not need to praise her for something, for her actions, for the fact that she is obedient. The girl should be praised just because she is. A girl needs to be fostered with a sense of her value as such.
Feminine nature is amazing and in fact does not require perfection.
A woman is already born self-sufficient in her feminine nature. Therefore, girls should be loved and admired as flowers.
They do not need to be focused on achievements, as soon as this happens, then the woman will begin to lose the sense of her worth by herself.
She will be forced to strive for achievements and results, losing her Femininity and ceasing to love herself with unconditional love.
She will be confident that love must be earned. It will be difficult for her to believe in love from a man if she does not deserve it and she cannot accept others without any proof.
A woman should be happy just because she is a woman. She does not need to prove anything to anyone and does not need to achieve anything. This should be done by men.
In essence, the upbringing of a girl comes down to accepting her feminine essence, love for herself and others.
It is also very important for a girl to teach her compassion.
Encourage her if she takes care of animals, drags homeless kittens into the house, do not rush to forbid her to do this.
It is very important for a woman to be compassionate and feel the pain and experiences of other people. A woman should be empathetic.
If there is one of the elders, then let her help take care of them.
Also try to build a trusting relationship with your daughter at this moment so that she can share her experiences with you.
If she shares anything with you, do not tell other family members about it, do not undermine her trust in you.
In adolescence, a girl should be taught women's arts, sewing, knitting, cooking. What does it have to do with art, not work, to learn to decorate the table beautifully, to serve dishes.
It is very important at this moment to take care of the formation of her femininity.
Teach the girl to take care of herself.
At this age, it is very important for future self-esteem that the girl does not differ and does not lag behind her peers, do not dress her in what you like, your tastes may not coincide with fashion trends.
The girl should feel comfortable among her peers.
If there are any flaws in her appearance, help to eliminate it, but very correctly, without causing even more complexes.
All adolescent girls have idols.
People they really like and would like to be like them.
It is important, together with your daughter, to choose a “woman-hero” - well-groomed, feminine, who is happy with her husband and in the family.
Learn as much as possible about her life, habits, focusing on the hero, the girl will strive to bring up similar qualities in herself.
Help your daughter decide on such a hero, and help her develop a line of behavior in order to cultivate the inner and outer qualities of the woman she likes.
Or maybe you will become such a woman for your daughter.
At this age, it is necessary to teach a woman to take care of herself, nails, skin, hair, body.
Teach cleanliness.
Teach her how to create coziness in the house, how to welcome guests.
Encourage her aspirations for sports, languages, music, dance.
Let her do everything and try herself in all areas, just do not press and do not force to do anything, otherwise any of her aspirations can turn into an occupation that she hates.
A woman was created primarily for pleasure. A man for movement and aspiration.
For a woman it is important - "HOW", for a man - "WHERE".
Teach and explain to your daughter that it is most important for her to enjoy everything she does.
The most important condition for raising a daughter is to be the happiest woman! And then you don't have to put too much effort in raising your daughter, she will have no other choice, seeing you happy, as soon as Be Happy!
I invite you to the training: How to raise a happy woman from a daughter.
Irina Gavrilova Dempsey
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