The World Of Women Fighting. Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Fighting For Love

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Psychologist Andrey Zberovsky will tell

The specificity of the XXI century is the low level of mutual tolerance in family relationships among men and women.

Progress and urbanization have eliminated the need for husband and wife to work together in the field. The future husband and wife began to receive various education and professions, work in various fields, communicate with a different contingent of people, and have different perspectives in life. Hence - to set before oneself such different goals and objectives, serious assistance in the achievement of which from a partner in family relations has become very unlikely.

Thanks to the advent of condoms, the ability to remotely earn through freelancing, bank deposits, medical care (and other consequences of the Progress), in the last third of the 20th century, a lot of unmarried men and unmarried women appeared. Unmarried men, not tortured by hard rural and factory labor, and free women of 25-40, who are not tired of caring for 5-10 children, began to look noticeably better, comparing favorably with their married and married peers. This radically changed the standard of a person's appearance: already at the end of the 20th century, they began to demand from the married and married that they look no worse than unmarried and unmarried. A paradox, strange for the past centuries, arose:

In the 21st century, married and married people are obliged to look no worse than the reference models of unmarried and unmarried. Otherwise, there are chances to quickly lose your spouse

In addition, men and women, who were quickly accustomed to everyday comfort, who were self-sufficient in their income, no longer understood: Why put up with any household, material, psychological, sexual and other inconveniences, because they always have a simple way to solve any problems at the expense of three actions:

- return to parents who always love, wait and feed;

- divorce and further single living (fortunately, sex and money can be obtained even with little effort);

- creating a relationship with that other person who (s) will provide a more comfortable living. For men who are not focused on personal caring for their children, these schemes have proven to be incredibly popular. Sexual freedom quickly turned their heads. However, for women who have to devote 10-20 years of their lives to raising children, these schemes turned out to be less interesting. The reason is the everyday difficulties of a single mother in the first years of a child's life and the psychological attitudes of childhood. A specific feature of girls' upbringing is playing with the family. From childhood, they play “mothers and daughters”: from here they get used to stoically enduring the inconveniences associated with rolling in strollers, spoon-feeding, dressing and undressing, washing and cleaning and all other integral elements of family and childhood. Also, from childhood, girls are brought up on the basis that the main goal of their life is to create a family and raise healthy and smart children. Boys, on the other hand, completely drop out of the process of forming family values. They don’t play “fathers-children-wives”, they don’t get used to any everyday hardships through the game-imitation of adults. They no longer grow up in families with 5-10 children, where you have to be extremely patient with hardships and other people's opinions, but are a "piece product"; they are brought up in families where they are the only ones surrounded by care.

So, for two or three generations, modern men have been growing up completely unprepared for their role as father and husband. Their thinking remains at the level of a sexually preoccupied teenager hanging out with their partners' deck of cards. Many of them do not intend to endure the difficulties of life, especially in connection with the birth of children, the need to save money and deny themselves a variety of pleasures. Hence, they do not intend to start a family, take on serious and long-term marital and paternal obligations. Having around a wide assortment of unmarried girls with whom they communicate at work and on social networks, they also do not have proper understanding that their wives will lose their attractiveness over the years and childbirth, do not feel the need for an intimate life for weeks and months …

And then there is the main problem of modern women - factor of the shortness of time of the childbearing period of their life … A man knows for sure that he can have children at any time from 18 to 60 in his life. Therefore, he is in no hurry to start a family between the ages of 20 and 30. Unfortunately, he is not afraid of losing her (eventually creating a new one) between the ages of 30 and 50. Women, on the other hand, are aware that their optimal time is the period from 18 to 35 years old, which is exactly two times shorter than that of men. Because of this, modern girls, even taking into account the fact that their financial and material dependence on their husbands is already small, nevertheless rigidly depend on them in terms of age. This is where many women's problems come from:

Realizing that their childbearing time is extremely limited, many girls are forced to marry in a hurry, for far from the most optimal options for men, and in the future, with tears in their eyes, cherish them.

It so happened that modern women are several times more motivated than men to start a family. Including even at the cost of destroying someone else's family and taking away the husband of another woman. Especially if there is an obvious shortage of men in society who not only express a clear intention to live in a family, but also are able to carry out responsible family behavior. But here's the next problem: even such a really “motivated for family” man, after registering a marriage and giving birth to a baby, in contrast to his wife-mother's apartment temporarily hidden in a burrow, still remains in society and contacts women. Meanwhile, in it, half-naked beauties are walking around the streets and offices, eagerly wanting male attention.

There are a lot of people around us who feel as comfortable in someone else's bed as in their own plate.

The worst thing about this is that in children's games "in the family" for girls, their mother-dolls never gain 10-30 kilograms per year, their figures do not deteriorate, and their clothes always correspond to children's fashion. Therefore, married girls with children in their arms are morally unprepared for the fact that many husbands cannot forgive them for excess weight, or long-term deprivation of intimacy, or sleeping with a child. They may not always be able to see the wrongness of their personal family behavior from the point of view of their husband. They don't understand that an ordinary modern man, especially the only child in the family, he simply does not know how to enter the position of his wife: after all, his own beloved mother always broke into a cake, but she solved both her problems and her son! Meanwhile, the modern man is raised by women: mothers, grandmothers, educators and teachers! There are no men next to them: dads either work or run away from the family, grandfathers have died, there are practically no men in the education system …

I will add one more significant point to this picture. Modern men and women consider themselves adults and stop obeying their parents from 16-18 years old. At the same time, they create their own family only at the age of 25-27, or even at the age of 30. For five, seven, or even all ten years (!), Modern men and women live, as it were, outside the framework of the family: parents have already left the regulation of life in the family, and have not yet come to the regulation of life in their own family. Hence, they lose all the skills of subordinating themselves to another person, the skills of coordinating their actions with loved ones - wife, husband, children, parents. It is not surprising that, having entered into marriage, such late-married men and women are very nervous about enduring any difficulties there, especially in the interests of other people. Leaving the family and divorce in this case seems to many to be the "key to all doors" and any difficulties in life.

Again, this is especially true for men, since many girls still strive to start a family at an earlier age than men (at 18-23 years old), so they do not have time to completely lose their skills in harmonizing interests with other people. Then they are not allowed to do this by their own child, whose interests are always priority over their own. But there are also some nuances here. After the birth of a child, modern wives immediately put their child on the goddess, forgetting three obvious things:

- Girls do not marry their child, but their husband! His requirements must always be taken into account, otherwise the husband will lose understanding of all meaning in life with this wife: after all, other women can easily give birth to a child. And, perhaps, living with them will be more comfortable. Or they are richer.

- A man can never understand the whole connection between a woman and her child. Accordingly, he is also unable to forgive his mother-wife for her consumer attitude towards the person of her husband (earn money, feed the family, solve all issues and help with the baby). Just as he is not able to obey his mother-in-law, who is regularly in his apartment, helping his wife with the child.

- Every married man is tirelessly watched by those other women who also really want to get married and have children. And they are also very active.

However, stop criticizing modern men and women: this has already been done by many psychologists. With my passage, I just want to convey to you the following thought:

A modern man brought up by women is completely dependent in his decisions on the behavior of five women: mother, wife, mother-in-law, mistress and her mother

My video advice

The world of women, outwardly fighting for men, but in reality - for the happiness of their future children, which either their own fathers or other men should provide them with. In this sense, the world of women is much smarter and tougher than the world of men. Of course, men fight too. For power, money and women. But they do not always understand that this is, in fact, a battle for the future of their children. But women understand this perfectly. Therefore, many women do not waste time fighting for that money and power, which are only a tool to ensure their further family and maternal happiness: they get it immediately as a bonus, complete with men in love with them.

For most men, women are the goal.

For most women, a man is just a tool.

Hence, there is a huge number of male mistakes and a much smaller number of female mistakes. Especially with smart mistresses. I will say more:

A man can be considered an intelligent creature.

only when he does not communicate with women in any way.

Reasonable man is a lonely man

or controlled by other men.