2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-31 14:10
More and more often, this question arises before successful people.
because it is obvious that behind any Champion there is a Mentor, Coach, Coach. But Amateurs train themselves.
So how do you choose?
Indeed, the mentor, having listened to all "I want", "I can", "I can not", "how to be" and "what to do", asks the right questions. So that the student or client can independently find, and better and then he can find the right answers in such situations. That is, he owns Coaching.
And he knows that the correct answer is the answer that works for this particular person, only in a given situation, at a certain time and in a certain place.
A wise mentor is a person who knows how to think systematically and look at the situation. A person who owns the Positions of Perception. One who can try on both the “clothes” and “feelings” of the interlocutor, student, client.
The Mentor can agree or disagree with the Student, support him or not, but he can always look at the situation from different angles, including from the client's point of view. At the same time, separating his feelings from his feelings in order to maintain an impartiality.
A wise mentor is always guided by the principle "do not judge, that you will not be judged."
Yes, sometimes he can say: "Do as I do" and / or make recommendations. It all depends on the time, place, specific person and tasks.
Why reinvent the wheel if it has already been invented? Why waste time and effort?
If a person needs Consulting, then the Wise Mentor uses this method
- How to build your presentation?
- How to build a promotion strategy?
- Where to invest free money?
A Good Specialist and Mentor with experience will be able to give answers to these and many other questions. Or he will give contacts of those who are experts in this particular issue.
But the next questions need to look for answers in a completely different way, and they are only inside. And the Wise Mentor knows this
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- Who am I?
- Why am I?
- What are my needs, goals?
- How do you achieve what you want?
- What abilities do I want to develop and how do I want to use them?
- What are the reasons for my victories and defeats?
And the Wise Mentor, when he is a professional, knows how to sensitively and tactfully, and at the same time firmly state the facts and "mirror" the truth. The one that "lives" with the Client right now. Without fear of offending. And precisely for the benefit of the Client.
At the same time, again, by embracing the entire system, I mean the system of the Student and the Client, without imposing my system of values and beliefs, without invoking my own worldview and personal principles.
Where to start?
From training or individual work?
If you feel dissatisfied with yourself, work, relationships, always start with yourself. And your "yourself" will tell you the right decision.
There are many nuances here, and there is no universal correct answer. Do you remember what the correct answer is?
It is rather important here that if this thought is ripe for you, then you are ready for a new stage of Development and Growth. to new Accomplishments.
And in this Path, undoubtedly, it will be easier with the Mentor.
After all, you probably know and understand that next to any Champions there is always a Coach, Coach, Mentor
Only amateurs train themselves
And now you are on the Path.
And often questions arise, to which it is important to be able to find (it is not just to find, but to find) answers.
These are often questions: “Who am I?”, “Why am I?”, “What do I think about myself, my work, my environment, life?”, “Why do I think so, and how do my thoughts affect my life?.
And yes, these questions will periodically come up in front of you over and over again. And the answers will change with the change in the level of understanding and the increase in the level of awareness. From "what is happening" to "how is it happening, and what can I get from this?"
A person who, at least once, has gone this way and found answers for himself, will be able to help you in this search.
We are all students of the same school called life, but we study in different classes
It is important that your Mentor is "older" than you, at least 3-4 "classes".
How to understand a "high school student" is your mentor or not?
If everything that this person says and does is familiar to you, familiar, familiar, understandable, does not cause irritation, anger or violent delight, the questions “why does he think so? or "What does he know that I do not know?" etc., it means he is your "classmate" and in communication with him you will strengthen your faith. But you will not get Development and Growth.
If you know even more, and you understand well that the person is not “in the subject,” then the prospective Mentor is even a “junior high school student”.
But the most interesting thing is when emotions and questions arise
- Why?
- What?
- How?
It is even possible that the heart says YES, but the mind “I don’t understand” or “what is this nonsense ?!”.
And you will feel different bodily manifestations, emotions. You may even feel anger, pain, guilt, fear. This means you have found Your Mentor. The one outside of your Perception Map. Someone who is able to expand your map and options. The one that takes you out of the Comfort Zone.
After all, you know for sure that Development occurs when you leave the Comfort Zone
When choosing a mentor, especially a personal one, listen to your feelings and feelings. The body doesn't lie. It is our brain that has the ability to explain everything to us, to interpret everything we like.
Calm down, breathe and relax. Listen to your Body. Feelings. And just "read" the answer and understand: Is it HE? Do you trust this person?
An important criterion for the joint work of a Coach, Mentor and Student is the coincidence of values
But here, we remember that the Wise Mentor also chooses you. A wise Mentor does not take everyone.
And a good Specialist will quickly and competently determine whether you are of the same value level and whether your joint work will be useful for both.
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