2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
For a long time, going to therapy, I expected relief.
And it seemed to me that now I would learn something new about myself and the puzzle would come together and the magical transformations of my life would begin.
Or that I feel better. And at once in all areas of my life.
Well, or at least the most significant one for me.
And from each meeting with the therapist, I carried away some new realizations about myself. A new vision of how and why I act in a certain way.
Why do I follow a similar scenario.
What influences one or another of my actions.
And the more information I accumulated about what was happening to me, in connection with what and how, the broader and more complete picture of the structure of me and my life was revealed to me.
And at some point, the number of meetings with the therapist grew into quality.
Therefore, when I hear from clients that they expect quick results, I really understand them. Because she herself once also went through these expectations and the desire to quickly get the desired changes in her life.
And I know that these changes are possible if you give yourself the opportunity to show interest in yourself and those inner processes of ours.
Show interest with love for yourself, as for someone who is mastering a new business.
The matter is knowing yourself.
For me this is a very important matter - knowing myself.
And this business cannot be hasty, it is important to devote time and attention to yourself.
After all, each of us is unique, each of us is the whole Universe.
We are alive, and not some kind of mechanism that can be disassembled into parts.
We are much more complex than many mechanisms.
And another important skill develops in the process of therapy, regular meetings with a psychologist - this is a kind and accepting attitude towards oneself.
This is what we lacked so often in our childhood.
It was more accustomed to hear us criticism, accusations, shame on us, dissatisfaction with us.
Therefore, it is so difficult to change these well-worn tracks-tracks of neural networks for new ones - with the acceptance of us, our approval, praise and support.
It is very difficult for these paths to change.
Often it takes us back to our usual track.
It is important not to give up and go on new paths over and over again.
And after a while, it will become easier and easier to do.
And I also want to say about the importance of new experience, new actions.
Any new action and new experience launches new neural pathways.
And the more of this new experience and new actions, the better.
Now, if you want to speed up this process, then try every day to do something differently than you are used to.
If you are used to walking on the same road, try changing your route a little.
If you are used to buying a certain bread, try to buy another one.
Expand your experience in your daily life and observe - how are you from this new experience? Does the joy of learning something new appear, or maybe the surprise "wow, how great, why haven't I tried this before?"
It is important that these new actions are within your power, such small steps.
It is important to start taking these small steps at meetings with a psychologist, slowly, gradually.
Everyone has a different pace and different possibilities and strengths for these actions, steps.
I suggest taking small steps that are within your reach.
At one meeting they took a small step, at another they took another step.
And so - step by step, and gradually the desired changes will come.
What could be such a step? The fact that, having recalled and told a certain situation at the consultation, you did not encounter the habitual devaluation of your feelings, but heard from the psychologist the words of acceptance, sympathy, and support.
Or you could notice in yourself, in addition to anger, also sympathy.
Or you were able to say out loud or at least to yourself some new words or phrases addressed to yourself or someone.
In general, these can be a variety of new actions.
And the following statements have always supported me:
"I walk in the direction of what I want to come to. If I can't walk, then I crawl. If I can't crawl, then at least I lie in that direction."
And often it was that the strength was enough only to "lie in that direction."
And I was also supported by the parable about two frogs.
And I said to myself, "I'm like that frog, floundering with my paws with all my might, and I don't want to give up."
Therefore, I wish everyone who goes to a psychologist and wants to change not to give up and take small and feasible steps for themselves, and you will definitely succeed!
Checked for yourself!
Share in the comments, please, what new would you like and can you try to do differently in your daily life?
With this simple action - just by writing a comment, you will already start a new neural network and start doing something differently!
Courage to you in this!
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