2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Have you tried to make your own assessment of yourself?
Recently, at one seminar, I heard that when we have a clearly formulated opinion about ourselves, the assessments of other people cease to disturb us, offend, or hurt.
For example, they say to you: "you are tough, you think that you are gentle and quivering, but you are not." If you do not like this assessment, at least you will be unpleasant and upset. However, if you already know that you are tough, then the answer to the interlocutor will be something like: “Yes, it is. Does it bother you? Can you communicate with me?"
Now watch. Each of us sees a lot of good in himself. We understand the bad manifestations of ourselves, and we try not to concentrate entirely on them. If you have the courage to look at these qualities, they will help you make a great portrait of yourself.
The man told you “you are tough”, he saw in you what is actually in him. However, helped you a lot. Where there is rigidity, there is also its opposite side. I have associations with rigidity - flexibility, softness, sometimes patience. I will also add synonyms for rigidity: steadfastness, firmness in intentions and actions.
I can be angry, impulsive, discouraged, irritated. At the same time, I often help others, I am responsive, I try to take the place of a person in any situation.
How can I assess myself?
Where there is anger, there is kindness, impulsiveness gives me peace of mind, despondency - joy and fun, thanks to irritation I am able to accept many situations. Accordingly, I cannot always be near people dear to my heart when they need help. My egoism does not always allow me to immediately look at the situation from the side of another.
I show my qualities, depending on the situation. For one particular situation, it is impossible to say that I am an egoist or an altruist. And most often people who are very significant to us will mention egoism, but will not say about altruism. Why are they doing this? - the answer was given by one of my acquaintances. She said that by pointing out the shortcomings, she wants to make the person better.
But without flaws there is no "wealth"! And I ask everyone who reads my mind to remember this.
So about your own assessment. I suggest you compose it using the following steps:
Ask yourself the question "what am I?" and write your own feelings
“What do others think of me?”, Write what you have been told about you
Opposite each characteristic, write its opposite, you can also add similar qualities, if they come to your mind
Number in order of priority what is most expressed in you. Thus, you will make the TOP 5-10 characteristics and qualities that are most manifested in you
When you have finished this analysis of yourself, read it and listen to your body. Does it agree with such an assessment of you? The body is not lying, it will give you the answer.
Having your own opinion about yourself, an assessment of yourself, it will become easier for you in contact with others. The qualities that people see in us may be on the last place on our list of self-esteem.
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