2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Courage to Have Your Own Opinion
There is an opinion in society: "A normal woman is married at 40".
Let's consider 2 options: when you have your opinion on this issue and when you don't.
Let's imagine that you are 40 years old and you are not married. Didn't get married or divorced. If you do not have your own opinion on the issue of marital status, then the social belief, which says that if you are not married, then something is wrong with you, will influence and crush. Perhaps the best thing you have done in your life is to get divorced. But public opinion does not delve into the nuances and thinks in global categories. Blindly delivers a verdict: "Not married, so something is wrong with her: angry, conflicted, mercantile …"
It knocks you off your feet, undermines self-confidence, sows doubts in the soul. Some women, to put a tick - hastily fill in the resulting gap. And unhappy marriages and crippled destinies are multiplying in the world.
Consider a situation where there is a clear personal opinion, confirmed by experience.
It is clear to you that sometimes a woman in her 40s may not be married. And if this is her choice and she is comfortable, then this is the norm.
For example, we saw women in their 40s married, but insanely unhappy. There were also 40-year-old unmarried women, happy and contented.
A clear personal opinion on this issue will support, strengthen and become a support. You do not gnaw yourself that something is wrong with you. You calmly accept when they are compared against you in your favor with married friends. Do not look headlong for a negligent partner. And enjoy your own life!
That's why you need to have your own opinion on any issue.
Take, for example, the desire to have children. If the energy of the goddess Demeter circulates inside you, then you have a strong maternal instinct, love children and taking care of them is a pleasure. And if not. If a different energy moves inside. And it ignites you: education, career, travel.
But the vigilant public opinion is itching: "It is high time for you to have children." And the woman is not ready and does not want more children. Even afraid. If, with such a mood, to give birth to a child, the number of people who were not needed in childhood will increase in this world. Why maim your own children?
You need to give birth when the desire to have a child wakes up. And how many years will be at the same time - it does not matter. In one woman, maternal energy gushes at 18, and in another, at 40, slumbers.
It often takes courage to have an opinion, because it can be at odds with the generally accepted one.
And to express this opinion requires intelligence, wisdom and courage. Sometimes it is better to keep your own opinion to yourself and not wave it like a flag in the square. After all, situations are different and it can be unsafe to present an opinion.
Therefore, have the courage to express your own opinion and the wisdom to do so at the best possible moment.
What do you think?
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