2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
All people once envy someone. There is no such person who has never envied anyone. If he says so, then he is lying. Either you or yourself. We feel jealous when we start comparing our life to someone else’s life. This is the way the reality is arranged that someone always has something that I do not have right now. This experience can add to the suffering. But if you just figure out what kind of feeling it is, then you can even benefit from it.
What kind of feeling is envy?
In general, in psychology, feelings are divided into complex and simple. Envy is an example of a complex feeling, because it includes several simple feelings:
- in envy there is anger at another person because he has something that I do not have;
- there is such an existential experience as "the injustice of being", the awareness of the injustice of the world. Because, again, the other has something that you do not have. And this is a certain given. The resources in the world are not equally distributed, but because they are distributed.
- envy is my desire. The desire to have something that the other person has.
- due to the fact that envy is one of the most rejected feelings in society, you can find hypocrisy in it. We hide this feeling from others and sometimes from ourselves. We deny, ignore, devalue the other, his achievements, just not to admit to ourselves that we are envious.
The last point about the prohibition of envy in society adds to the suffering.
Why is envy prohibited in society? I think this is due precisely to the fact that there is anger in there, and anger is also prohibited. This was done for a reason, but in order to preserve the vitality of society. After all, if we directly and fully expressed our anger to each other, then we would simply kill each other and society would no longer exist. And so we have a mechanism in our heads that we shouldn't be angry.
And actually the first thing to do to make envy feel easier is to admit to yourself that you are envious. To say to myself: "Yes, I envy that he has it, but I do not."
After a frank confession, it is important not to fall into a feeling of guilt that, they say, if I envy, then I am bad, because this is also condemned in society.
But here we remember why the ban on envy was invented and what each of us envies.
This is important to understand, because our psyche is actively working to keep our image of ourselves clean and white. We often think of ourselves better than we really are. And when we admit to ourselves that we are jealous, it adds other colors to our image. But this does not make us worse, envy is normal.
The second thing that will help to turn envy even to one's own benefit, to take a certain resource from this feeling - our envy can point us to our desires. With jealousy, you know what you want. There is a desire to have something, to be somehow.
And this is the stage when you can thank your envy, because through it you can appropriate your desires.
When you clearly understand what you want, take responsibility for this desire, then you can start looking for ways to realize the desire.
In the meantime, we reject envy, reject and desire from it, we only lose strength. Energy is also spent on suppressing envy, desire is not appropriated and the opportunity to realize it is also invisible.
Therefore, it makes sense to appropriate your envy, thereby returning your energy and finding your desires in it.
Envy your health:-)
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