2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Once upon a time in Soviet times, when I was 28 and my sister was 18, we were with her in the Baltics. At that time we had nothing on the shelves, but there it was almost like abroad. Another culture, fashion, goods. I wanted everything at once. I remember that I spent all the money, but did not acquire anything memorable and was disappointed with the trip. And my 10-year-old younger sister bought herself a beautiful travel bag, spending all the money. I did not understand her and was angry. Why spend money on a bag that you rarely use if you don't have the essentials for every day? We even had a falling out over this. But my sister said that she did not regret anything, and that she really wanted this bag. Later I realized that I was jealous of her courage to fulfill her desire. I remember this lesson all my life. The iron-concrete structure of my rationalism then cracked. Until now, making a choice, I let my feelings and desires forward, but I consult with wisdom and reason.
Perhaps the best parable on how to make desires work:
- There was one shop on the outskirts of the universe. There was no sign on it for a long time - it was once carried away by a hurricane, and the new owner did not begin to nail it down, because every local resident already knew that the store was selling wishes.
The assortment of the store was huge, here you could buy almost everything:
huge yachts, apartments, marriage, the post of vice president of a corporation, money, children, a job you love, a beautiful figure, victory in a competition, big cars, power, success, and much, much more. Only life and death were not sold - this was done by the head office, which was located in another Galaxy.
Everyone who came to the store (and there are also those who wish, who have never entered the store, but stayed at home and just wish), first of all, found out the value of their desire.
The prices were different. For example, your favorite job was worth giving up stability and predictability, willingness to plan and structure your life on your own, self-confidence and permission to work where you like, and not where you need to.
Power was worth a little more: you had to give up some of your beliefs, be able to find a rational explanation for everything, be able to refuse others, know your own worth (and it should be high enough), allow yourself to say "I", declare yourself, despite approval or disapproval of others.
Some prices seemed strange - marriage could be obtained almost for nothing, but a happy life was expensive: personal responsibility for your own happiness, the ability to enjoy life, knowing your desires, refusing to strive to match those around you, the ability to appreciate what you have, allowing yourself to be happy, awareness of one's own value and significance, refusal of “sacrifice” bonuses, the risk of losing some friends and acquaintances.
Not everyone who came to the store was ready to immediately buy a wish. Some, seeing the price, immediately turned around and left. Others stood for a long time in thought, counting the cash and pondering where to get more funds. Someone started complaining about too high prices, asked for a discount or was interested in a sale.
And there were those who took out all their savings and received their cherished desire, wrapped in beautiful rustling paper. Other customers looked enviously at the lucky ones, the gossip that the owner of the store was their acquaintance, and the desire went to them just like that, without any difficulty.
The store owner was often asked to lower prices in order to increase the number of customers. But he always refused, since the quality of desires would also suffer from this.
When the owner was asked if he was afraid to go broke, he shook his head and replied that at all times there would be daredevils who would be ready to take risks and change their lives, abandon their usual and predictable life, who could believe in themselves, who had the strength and means for in order to pay for the fulfillment of their desires.
And on the door of the store for a good hundred years there was an announcement: "If your wish is not fulfilled, it has not yet been paid for."
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