2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Andrey Zlotnikov for TSN Blog "You like to ride, love to carry sledges" Folk wisdom. “Her head struck with wondrous beauty, in spite of her dead stone eyes; but only her head I saw. The majestic goddess wrapped her entire marble body in wide furs and, all trembling, sat curled up in a ball like a cat. " "Venus in Furs" Leopold von Sacher-Masoch
My boss at his first job, when I went to see him at 18:15 and asked if I could go home, answered: "If you have done everything and your conscience is clear, go." Here I almost always fell into a stupor, since this answer is difficult to understand unambiguously. It must be admitted that you have done everything, and this is impossible in intellectual work, as well as in a summer cottage. About the same controversial opinion I have regarding the purchase of a fur coat for a woman.
The fur coat is included in the set of generally accepted expectations from a man, or rather the "duties" of a man's sexual partner to a woman. Just imagine - you buy food for moths for three thousand American dollars, a beautiful thing. When I did, I spent one and a half to two of my monthly income. A man's mind and fifty percent of Jewish blood cannot cope with this. Yes, it's beautiful, yes, it's warm here, by the way, is a controversial issue, but at the sight of the price tag, the heart requires validol. Planting a tree, building a house and raising a son - and so much more to do for male initiation, and then there's a fur coat.
At one seminar I heard this definition of love: love is equal to the money that you give to your beloved. The more money you give painlessly, the more you love.
"Tyzhpsychologist" seems to suggest a direct relationship with the Delphic oracle, which means that one glance should be enough to penetrate the essence of the phenomenon - why so many women need her man to buy her a fur coat. Therefore, I will check my genotype and try to clarify the symbolism of this phenomenon.
Status
I am a dear woman. My man earns enough to make me stand out from the crowd. I am more successful in society than others. If you, male man, want me, then offer me more. The owner may have hysterical needs - to attract the attention of others, to cause envy, jealousy.
Aggression
A woman dressed in furs declares her savagery, primitiveness, relaxedness and sexuality.
Fetish
The symbol of love of the chosen one is like a ring with a diamond. According to statistics (Artem Shevchenko, owner of a chain of fur shops), the majority of buyers of "skins" are people with average income.
Pay for sex
As well as borsch, socks, shirts and children. In general, everything that can be included in the bill for a beloved man.
Self-esteem
A bit like point one, but we are talking about the feeling of one's own inferiority without the corresponding attributes (expensive car, telephone, fur coat, etc.).
And what does it mean to buy a women's fur coat for a man?
If you look at the above reasons, the refusal to buy can symbolize the fear of a man that his woman will be taken away (robbed). He wants to hide the uniqueness of his beloved, without flaunting her. Or he wants to be a redneck peasant and not indulge a woman's feminine whims. Or he is not ready to pay for something that does not satisfy him.
And in conclusion, I want to say that relationships include a lot. And the language of gifts is the language of love. So remember - there are never too many fur coats.
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