2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
This is life: one wins cups, the other engraves his name on them
from the play by Leonid Zorin "The Intercession Gate"
Hi! I am an ordinary person. I'm average. I am not a boss, but a very good subordinate. They are happy with me at work. I never take risks in this life. Sometimes I get paid a bonus, sometimes I understand that luck "does not shine." But I don’t win big because I never risk it. Better because a tit in a hand. I am a simple person. I eat something, live somewhere and sleep with someone. Usually, I blame someone else for my failures. Most often, the one with whom I sleep. I have neither falls nor ups, although I could. I am your courteous work colleague. I'm an awkward subway ride with a supermarket bag. I am yourself. I'm average.
In no case do I urge, by my introduction, all readers to become supermen, millionaires, TV stars and fitness babies - just not to be ordinary and not to go with a package. It's not about that. Let's talk about a life scenario.
The fact is that we ourselves write the script of our life. Moreover, we make up an opinion about ourselves and make a plan in order for such a person to survive, being very small. The child appears in the family. It was expected with impatience, or not very much. Mom might want more to make a career than to be a mom. It could be different. More interesting is what will happen next. While our hero grew up and studied the world, he faced the reaction of the outside world and corrected his decisions.
Child: “I wonder what is hidden behind this door? I want to try it myself. I can do it. Look what I have created and how I can."
The world: “Don't bother, don't touch, the world is dangerous. What can you do yourself? Don't think, don't grow up, don't be yourself. You are not important. Do as you are told. Try and please others. Keep your mouth shut."
Script messages can be transmitted verbally, non-verbally, and in both of these ways at the same time. It is important that the decision how to be is made by the person himself. Eric Berne cited the case of two brothers to whom their mother told them that both of them would "end up in a psychiatric hospital." Subsequently, one of them became an inpatient in a psychiatric hospital; the other became a psychiatrist.
The life script is written by the person himself. He could be the script Winner, The loser and Non-winning (banal scenario). It is important to note that reaching a certain social level does not mean acting according to the Winner's scenario. A person may be rich and famous, but not feel the joy of life, often get sick or be constantly irritated. This means that he is still a loser. Conversely, a person who lives in a small village can herd sheep in the mountains and be a winner at the same time. He is respected, loved and he achieves his goals.
Another important feature of the life plan: the script is unconscious. We start writing it after we are born, make edits and adjustments as we grow up. We need him to survive and somehow be in this life. Realizing your scenario is already a lot of work, already a result. The most important thing: it is possible to get out of your life scenario. This can be done spontaneously and independently, or safely and in the company of a therapist. The main thing is not to scold yourself for early decisions - since they were the most correct then. It is important not to shift all the responsibility onto your parents, who could be wrong raising you. And it is imperative to know that living freely and acting spontaneously, in the best way at the moment, is an absolutely attainable opportunity. Be a winner in your life.
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