2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I will now swing at the sacred. Namely, hope. The one who dies last.
And I even have a hypothesis why hope dies last. Because before she dies, the one who hoped dies. Who would not have died if there was no hope. I would have lived for myself, but hope finished it off.
I know hope is good. In selected contexts. Hope is very good when you watch a movie - and there the hero is so brave, and everyone is against him, and there is little chance, but the hero has hope (and also faith in himself), and in the end he does everything well. Happy end.
In life, hope is good when there is a plan. When you know what to do and how to do it. When there are alternatives. Then hope is good.
Because there are situations in life when it's time to sit down, revise what is, and recognize what is. Even if it's unpleasant to admit. Especially if it's unpleasant to admit.
Because if you have been in a relationship for years in which there is only poison and bitterness, and it's time to move on, but hope is the same. What if everything changes? And then hope to the detriment.
Or if the employer has already deceived you 10 times, and you are all sitting at this job and hope that he will start fulfilling his promises, then hope is harmful.
Or if you so want something to be good, but it still does not get good, then hope can be an excuse - an excuse not to admit the very unpleasant truth that you don't want to admit. But it is precisely this unpleasant truth that can become a platform in order to find a way out. And here is hope.
If a faucet is flowing in the kitchen, then you need to admit that it is flowing - and then do something. If you hope that it seemed, then somehow not very much. You can even flood your neighbors.
If something does not work out, then you need to admit that either the skills are not enough, or you do the wrong thing, or you do it wrong. In short, you mess up in something. But then, recognizing this, you can change something. Go to study, change profession, change actions.
If the truth is very difficult and unpleasant, and the brain refuses to accept reality, then all the same it must be admitted, this truth. To build a realistic plan of action.
And at this stage, hope is good. When there is an understanding of the real situation, there is a plan of action and yet, it is highly desirable, at least one alternative plan of action, then the hope is good.
But then it is no longer a hope, but some kind of practicality turns out.
And what about hope? And hope itself is a stone on the neck of a man who was not going to drown, but hope pulled him down. Such is the hope.
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