2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you cannot change the situation, change your attitude towards it
Stanislav Jerzy Lec
A woman, who is about 40 years old, complains at the reception that her husband does not love her at all, does not respect her, behaves like the last reptile, a bad enemy!
Her grandfather died recently. She was very attached to him, loved dearly, he lived with them.
And now my grandfather was gone. She is sad. It is very difficult for my grandfather to leave. And this … husband - he is not able to respect her feelings - he listens to music very loudly and his music is not sad, in accordance with the situation, but very funny! Dance!
The woman talks indignantly! Her eyes sparkle with anger.
As it turned out, my grandfather had already died six months ago …
And the state of her melancholy, grief does not dissipate - she cannot cope with the loss.
She generally lay in a layer for a long time - she could not come to her senses in any way.
But now she began to move more, she began to do something around the house - it became easier - she lets go a little
When did the state begin to change?
Not so long ago - when the husband's attitude towards her became very annoying - his "concerts" began ….
- It turns out that it was thanks to your husband that you began to get out of a lingering depression? - I ask.
- The time exactly coincides … Do you think that it was he who contributed to my recovery? - the woman thinks for a long time.
- If so, then he was not afraid to take on the negative that "poured" on him from me when he started playing the music? But before he really did not do …
We cannot know for sure whether the client's husband behaved consciously or intuitively. But the fact that he “took fire on himself” is for sure!
What motives was he guided by? One can only guess.
The result was that the wife "got out of bed"! And even decided to go to a psychologist - to deal with partnerships.
As a result, the woman was imbued with warmth and gratitude to the "scoundrel" - her husband).
Several years ago, the expression "The truth is different than it really is!"
While you are thinking about the meaning of this phrase, an idea may come up - what if I also see something one-sided?
Maybe there are other meanings in some important moments for you? And not just the ones you are "stuck on"?
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