If You Start And Quit Playing Sports

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Olga, 32 years old:

This is the third time I quit going to the gym after 5-6 weeks of training. The first time I got sick and could not recover for a long time. The second time I had an emergency at work and there was no time for sports. And now - I just realized that I have absolutely no strength after training, they take my life.

Artem, 34 years old:

I’ve lost count of how many times I started to go to the rocking chair. After 2-3 weeks, I have something injured. Or I'm starting to get sick. Or you just want to score and stay home.

In the body-oriented approach, among other character structures, two are distinguished, in which the level of bodily energy is lower than that of the others. The so-called "schizoid" and "oral" structures. People who have expressed one or both of these structures, bodily activity is just very necessary. But at first it is given with difficulty. And the entrance to it should be smooth. The usual approach to sports creates a lot of stress and, as a result, abandonment of sports.

Next, I will describe the features of these structures and possible actions to gain a foothold in sports activity.

In both cases, it is important:

• Find a suitable activity. To make it comfortable enough, interesting and pleasant. Against the background of pleasure, addiction will arise and you will want to continue.
• Add sports activity to life gradually, giving yourself the opportunity to feel the body, get used to the activity, get used to a new field.
• Find the right load. There should be no overload during the workout itself, and there should be enough rest between workouts. If you “kill yourself” during training so that your whole body hurts and it’s impossible to move and go to train again in a day, then the body will very soon go on strike. The load should not be up to pain (both in the process and after), but before the pleasant sensation “Oh, I have muscles! I have a body! I feel it, I like it in it! " Those. a rocking chair with classical standards for load and intensity 3-4 times a week is not the most suitable option.
• It is better to start with a trainer / instructor. Because in many exercises, technique is important, otherwise you can harm yourself. It is important to choose the right coach. Who will be able to find an individual approach to you, and will not "kill" you with standards. You should also be comfortable with him.
• And the very, very beginning is better to take with practices aimed at awareness of your body. You can see the M. Feldenkrais system on the Internet. You can do exercises from it yourself. In Irina Solovieva's book Who Are We Really? there is also a set of exercises for doing body awareness work on your own. This prepares the body and mind for sports activities.

"Schizoid" structure

We prefer intellectual work and avoid physical work. In general, it is difficult for us (and not interested) in anything other than solving some complex mental problems (usually we work in IT or are engaged in the exact sciences). In body we are usually very slender. Often stooped, the shoulders are raised up, and the head seems to be pressed into the shoulders. The body is tense, especially the neck. We sort of shrink to a point. Everything that is connected with the body and in general with the material world causes anxiety in us. That which is connected with contact with people - too. If we go out into the light, then immediately into the astral plane - for example, in meditation, where nothing needs to be done with the body. Sometimes we can reflect on the meaning of life in the company of those close in spirit. Communication with other people tires us a lot.

In the gym, the atmosphere itself strains us: noise, clanging, rumbling, stupid music, bright lights and a bunch of half-naked people who need to be confronted near the simulators.

Recommendations

Important points for people with this structure:

• Feeling safe. Physical and emotional comfort is important, otherwise all bodily forces will be spent on overcoming anxiety. It should not be too crowded, noisy and heaps of sharp corners that you can kill yourself.
• Interest in activity. Semantic fullness. Or a mental / spiritual focus on it (at the same time, it would be useful, on the contrary, to be included in the material world without a mental background).

This determines the choice of sports activity, its format and venue.

To turn on the interest, the mental component, you can approach strengthening the body as a solution to an intellectual problem. You can study the anatomical atlas: what muscles are in the body and for what movements they are responsible. And figure out which movements of which of the muscles could be used and strengthened.

To organize a mental / spiritual focus, one can choose bodily practices that are consistent with mental beliefs or spiritual aspirations. Qigong, Tai Chi, Yoga, etc.

But you can also go from the opposite - to try something simple and material without a mental component.

It is best to practice in a very small group or individually with an instructor.

If it's too difficult to trust the instructor yet, you can start with a simple exercise alone. It is important that exercise is really simple - no extra weight and no actions that can be done incorrectly to the detriment of health (for example, running and jumping is an activity that must be done correctly, otherwise joints can be killed).

If you go to the rocking chair, then be sure to work out first with a trainer. This will provide both physical and emotional security. Select the weight load adequately and increase it carefully and gradually.

• The coach must hear and understand your needs, find an individual approach, and not “drown” the standards. If the trainer initially adheres to a soft approach (the load is up to 80%, but 100% and not 120%), then it may be easier to come to an agreement with him.
• It is important that you can understand each other with the coach. It makes sense to choose a coach who, in addition to a sports career, has work or study experience in the field of intellectual activity.

If it is impossible to catch some movements by sight and reproduce them, then this is normal. You can ask the instructor to explain exactly how they should be done, which muscles and when to strain and relax.

Oral structure

We love contact and communication. We love hugs. It is important for us that it is cozy, warm and tasty. We are romantics and believe in world peace. It is important for us that someone is near us, otherwise we are lonely. It is important for us to be taken care of. Or we ourselves begin to take care of someone. We love to eat. We do not like diets, but we often "sit" on them. Bodily, we are usually "sluggish." Our head is often extended forward. Our arms and legs can be longer than those of other people. Or we can be chubby like baby dolls. But we are very soft, not tense. We don't like strenuous activity; we like to lie or sit in a chair. Talk. Or hug.

In sports, it happens that we are gripped by despair that something is not working out, and there is a desire to surrender. And in the gym we grab onto the simulators so tightly that we quickly get tired of the tension in our hands.

Recommendations

Communication, support, care and comfort are important for this structure.

You can choose sports activity, where there is communication and play, pair activity. Pair yoga, pair games (tennis, badminton, etc.), contact dancing. You can go to sports with a friend / girlfriend to get communication and support. If you do exercises at home, then also pair or exchange a photo report with a friend / girlfriend.

Activity should be enjoyable. Shouldn't be too difficult or stressful. You can start with something "lying" (Pilates, yoga, swimming, etc.), if it is given without much strain.

Taking care of yourself is important - comfortable clothes, a towel, a bottle of water, etc.

You can go to group classes, but not too large groups, so that the facilitator's attention is enough for everyone and you are not deprived.

Better to start with a coach. This will help you get the right technique and not hurt yourself. It will also provide support and communication. If a rocking chair, then definitely with a trainer, and increase the weight gently and gradually.

When choosing a coach, it is important that:

• The coach was quite caring, attentive and supportive (like a good parent).
• You could talk to the coach.
• The coach did not insist on the diet.
• The coach could find an individual approach to you, and did not drive you to the standards.

It so happens that both of these structures are combined in a person. Then listen to yourself and choose the form of activity and communication as you are ready in all aspects.

It can also be combined with other character structures, which provides additional resources. For example, strong legs and love for long walks. Or the desire to compete and win, then they can attract and give strength, for example, team sports or wrestling. Etc. In addition, temperament and other characteristics are important. Therefore, the choice of interesting and enjoyable activities is an individual matter.

Another group of people with low energy levels includes the so-called "traumatics" - people with a difficult life history who have experienced physical or emotional abuse. In this case, the safety of both the physical activity itself and the contact with the coach or group is especially important. It is important to choose a tactful coach who will not raise his voice or touch the body. Psychotherapy can also be meaningful. This will significantly increase the level of bodily energy and the level of readiness for bodily activity.