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From the author: As a leadership coach, several years ago I came to the conviction that it is possible in any manager to reveal his hidden potential as a leader, and after many years of successful work, I decided to draw up a Memo "How to Become a Leader".
Today we will talk about our desires, fears and the role of a coach in achieving success.
(Continued. Read previous chapters)
Part 13. Our Desires, Fears, and Success
What do we desire the most?
- Confessions
- Support
- Praises
- Admiration
- Of money
- Seductive situations
- Entertainment
- Pleasures
What are we afraid of?
- Rejection
- Punishments
- Disrespect
- Compliance with the rules
- Disciplines
- Pain
- Guilt
- Shame
- Loneliness
- Ambient pressure
- Condemnation of others
- When they laugh at us
- Of fear
In an effort to achieve our desires and overcome our fears, we spend a lot of energy and strength. We make mistakes all the time, failures follow us. How do we achieve a state of success in business and personal life?
Here, I am sure, the role of a coach, a psychologist can be decisive:
- for some of us, the coach becomes a mentor who listens to our thoughts, problems, discusses with us ways to solve them.
- for some, the coach becomes a consultant-advisor who draws us into the analysis of the situation, helps us understand what is happening and why.
- A coach is an assistant and moderator of our inner personalities of a strategist-dreamer and a boring performer.
- a coach can help integrate our strengths and minimize our weaknesses.
- even the most ingenious athlete will not be able to achieve great heights in victories without his coach.
- it will be very difficult for us to become a leader without our own coach-coach.
In cooperation with a coach, preferably with a psychological education and successful business experience:
- we begin to cope with challenges of any level;
- we get better faster;
- we become authors and directors of our lives.
… I have a client. Let's call her Maria. She is very talented, hardworking, well educated. Her requests were - to make a career and get married. Before joining me, she held one position as head of the commercial sector in a very famous large corporation for 8 years. For 8 months of our work, Maria took the position of Deputy Head of the Commercial Department. Today, after another 10 months, she will be appointed to the position of Commercial Director - Head of the Commercial Department. In her personal life, she also made progress: her chosen one is a Muscovite who very successfully took place in business in one of the European countries. They recently had an engagement, and a wedding is expected in the fall.
Another client of mine, Dmitry (name has been changed - author's note), the general director of the company, could not agree on a motivation system with the owners for six months. In the course of our work, he signed a motivation system and after another 6 months he received an annual bonus in the amount of 60,000 euros.
It has been 15 years since I started working as a coach and psychoanalyst.
Impossible for others will soon become possible for you
Let's continue.
Damian of Sinai, leadership coach, expert psychoanalyst, Head of the Center for Strategic Coaching and Psychotherapy "Innovation Values"
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