I'm Worried About My Son

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A woman came to the constellation. She has an adult son and she is very worried about him. There seems to be no real reason, most of the time he sits at home at the computer. But the woman still thinks that something bad can happen to her son. I confess that the guy is really threatened by something, I did not have a thought. I thought that my mother was projecting her own disorder, her fears onto him. In addition, we are talking about an adult person, in his absence it is at least incorrect to look at his field. But the woman was really very alarmed. I offered to put three figures - a substitute for herself, a substitute for her son and a figure "what can I do for my son." Quickly enough, the third figure sank to the floor, the "son" approached her, and the "mother" remained aside. I asked the client if there were any killed in their family (a figure lying on the floor indicated that). It turned out that her grandfather had died in the war. At this time, the "son" began to sink to the floor. Apparently the maternal instinct did not deceive and the threat to the boy's life really existed. To be sure, we introduced the figure of "grandfather who died in the war" in test mode. The deputy grandfather sat down on the floor next to the third figure, "I think we are one whole." The third figure nodded, "Yes, the dead grandfather is me." Left only one "grandfather". He didn't look calm. To my questions he answered that it was hard for him, that something was bothering him. What can calm a dead soldier? I enter the figure of his mother. She kneels next to the soldier. At the same time, the client's deputy son gets up from the floor and steps aside. But the "lost grandfather" is clearly not happy with his mother's presence. He reports annoyance and turns on his side, his back to his mother. I'm trying to figure out the cause of the irritation. "The woman's lamentations will begin now! I have a serious business, not up to her," the soldier says. Instead of the soldier's mother, I introduce his father. It doesn't get better. "I am ashamed to look my father in the eye. I did not complete the task" - the soldier sits on the floor with his back to his father. I ask him to repeat after me the phrase - "I did not cope with the task, because I was killed." The soldier is angry, "Yes, they killed me. But it doesn't change anything! They killed this is not an excuse! That is what I did not manage. I don’t know how else to explain it to you." At my request, the father says, "Son, you did it." The soldier waves it off, "Who knows, he wasn't there." He was not there … Exactly, we must put the one who was there. I enter the figure of the combat commander. The soldier gets up from the floor, turns to the commander - "Comrade Sergeant, I failed. I was killed …" The sergeant no longer needs my prompts - "You did it!" And then to me, "I'm not saying this because I need to. Life is the highest price. What do you mean, he failed? He did it!" The sergeant turns to the soldier's father, prompting the phrases "Your son died defending the Motherland. He did it." All the men stand in a row, the client's deputy son moves towards them. The deputy client starts crying. I suggest phrases to her son, "Mom, I am a man, my place is next to them." The client's deputy calms down, she looks at her son, prompting her the phrase "I agree." Mother and son hug, at this point I finish the arrangement.

But it seemed to me that the client was unhappy with the final scene of the deployment. Indeed, she let her son go into the world of men, is it not dangerous? But I see the situation differently. The deceased grandfather "called" his grandson to him, to complete the task with which he "did not cope" himself. This could provoke a life-threatening situation in the guy's real life. Now this dynamic is gone. Isn't that what the client came for? I would explain all of this, but she didn't ask. The woman probably didn't need my comments. Perhaps after a while she herself will evaluate what she saw differently. The main thing is that we were able to remove the generic interlacing, which means the share of her son will become easier. And yet, when you decide to make an arrangement for yourself, do not hesitate to contact the presenter after the end of the work;-)