2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
1. Safe attachment and care
A child needs not only satisfaction of physiological needs for food, warmth, but also reliable, stable adults with whom attachment is formed. When there is safety, the child feels that he is being cared for, protected. This creates trust in close people, and in the future to other people and the world in general, which in the future helps to build strong marital relations, good relationships with other people. When parents create a safe space for their child, unconditional acceptance is equally important. Unconditional acceptance is the feeling that I am loved, accepted as I am, I am a joy for someone. I don’t need to deserve love (for example, grades in school, good behavior, or caring for a younger brother or sister, etc.). And even if the parents may not like the child's behavior, this does not mean that he is bad, or they do not like him.
2. Freedom to Express Needs and Emotions
Having an emotional connection with others, a child learns to understand himself, his needs. Not afraid to express his thoughts and feelings to others. He has the right to all emotions that he experiences: joy, sadness, anger, disgust, fear. Parents help to cope with these feelings when the child feels angry - this does not mean that you need to insult or beat someone, but by joining the child's emotions, parents help to express anger in a safe way for themselves and other people.
3. Realistic boundaries and self-control
This need suggests that it is important for children to learn to respect others, you are important, but also other important ones. There are certain rules and they must be followed. Developing healthy self-control builds responsibility. By making efforts, we do what is important and necessary, which will lead in the future to the set goals, to success.
4. Spontaneity and play
The creative space allows the child to be happy at the moment, to be happy, to spontaneously express his thoughts and feelings, to be free from the established rules. This is the time when a child can just play, express himself, and not just learn. Developing this need, we develop a piece of a happy child who can enjoy life, stop in the moments here and now, celebrate life.
5. Autonomy, competence and a sense of identity
Parents who believe in their child, support him, at a certain period of life allow him to gradually move away from them, so that over time the child becomes an independent adult. And over time, children begin to believe in themselves, have a sense of their own dignity and value, do not live by a template, but listen to their reactions and needs. He knows his abilities, knows his limitations, can create and be productive. Bear good fruit and do not compare yourself with others, do not catch up or overtake anyone.
Meeting basic emotional needs in childhood forms a healthy personality. A person builds good relationships in life, realizes himself in work, believes in himself, lives a happy and fulfilling life. If it so happened that your needs were not satisfied to a certain extent, then as an adult, modern science says that you can learn to satisfy emotional needs with the help of psychotherapy and thus build new neural connections. In other words: "Give yourself a chance for a happy, joyful life."
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