Achievements

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Why are achievements needed if there is no one to share them with? It can be argued that people achieve and strive for something exclusively for themselves and for the purpose of self-development. And it is true. But! Man is a social being and it is important for each of us that our achievements, any, even the most insignificant (to say nothing of the conquest of peaks) are noticed by other people. And they gave feedback in the form of support, admiration, gratitude, respect, recognition, sincere interest, etc. Then the strength appears to go further. Energy appears for accomplishment and implementation of the plan. Remember, "I'll move mountains" - this is when there is an incentive, motivation. When there is someone nearby for whom a person is ready to move these very mountains, reach, go forward, conquer new horizons. All these aspirations depend on self-confidence, the foundations of which are formed in childhood.

Indeed, from early childhood it is so important that our achievements, so simple, so obvious to adults, were noticed and recognized by these very adults. For the first time, I drew a circle evenly and practically round - for an adult it is so simple, but for a child it is an achievement. And wow, such an achievement! Because this is the first time for him. He drew it dozens or maybe even hundreds of times and nothing came of it, but here, with great efforts, sticking out his tongue and clinging to the sheet, straining all his strength IT WORKED! Eureka! Happy? Still would! But it is extremely important that mom / dad, grandmother / grandfather, in general, people who are important for the baby see and appreciate such works.

If you support and praise from childhood, then on the way of growing up, living through various crises, such a person will have more strength to go and not give up. And if there are defeats (and they will be), they will not break. A person will survive them with dignity, he will be able to rise, shake himself and move on. Self-confidence and self-confidence is laid by people who are important to us. She is from the origins. When the first circle, the first step, the first rhyme, a tower of cubes, self-poured soup, 5 for dictation, the first diploma, the first medal. And someone important is nearby. First, relatives, then friends, a loved one, colleagues, acquaintances, comrades of interest.

Supported and recognized, it is much easier to form an environment around him in which he will be just as supported and loved. An environment of like-minded people and people dear to his heart. Such a person will not go where he is deliberately or not will be humiliated, ridiculed or devalued. Such a person will quickly interrupt such manipulations in relation to himself. And it will come out of such a relationship.

Promoted at work, conducted a new training, began to embroider / draw pictures, your child said the first "aha" - all these are achievements. At work, as a hobby. In life. And it's very important to share them. To be heard (oh), supported (oh) and recognized (oh). It is important in the circle of relatives, friends, colleagues to share that she finally went to kizomba or made an excellent project, or “Our Mashenka herself picked up a spoon yesterday”. And to receive in response sincere delight, affection, admiration or a silent pat on the shoulder. Important!

Therefore, let's more often support, listen and hear our loved ones, relatives and friends. And if not a pity, then just acquaintances (for a good person it is not a pity, after all)). What if they didn’t have enough in childhood. And even if it was enough, there are still so many achievements on the way that in order to accomplish them, it is very important to have someone nearby with whom you can share.