2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Today we can say directly that psychologists sometimes cannot help their clients at all. Sometimes in public transport or in telephone conversations you can hear something like: “Why did you sign up to see a psychologist? I went! Nonsense!”,“What kind of psychologist are you talking about - they all love themselves there! Instead of helping, they are talking nonsense. Come to me! I'll cure you.
I would like to immediately note that there is a category of clients that is probably found in every psychologist. These clients treat psychologists in our time as entertainment, they say - it’s interesting that they will dance, dance and tell us something that they didn’t know about themselves yet? Such clients are absolutely not available for counseling and therapeutic work. They generally do not need a psychologist as a specialist. Interesting! Fun! It seems like you can call the fashionable word "self-development" …
The second common problem is the lack of any willingness to work on oneself in connection with one's own boundaries / attitudes. It looks something like this: “I came, I have a problem, but I will not tell you. I'll sit here with her in a corner. Well, you are already a psychologist and you will help me! I personally have an associative image of a man with a broken arm who comes to the surgeon and, in fact, is not ready to show him this hand. Like, you are a surgeon and so, intuitively, you will understand what bothers me and at a distance, with the power of thought, cure me!
Another problem can be really serious - the case when a person is completely ready for therapy, is disposed for a consultation, has a good dialogue about himself, but the methods of work of a particular psychologist do not suit a particular client. Well, this really happens! Fortunately, there are not so few specialists in psychology in large cities.
Well, and the most important thing, which is really quite difficult, is the fact that you need to find your own psychologist. Exactly the person to whom the client is ready to reveal his soul. A person who wants to trust and share his worries, experiences.
A friend, the love of our life, a good colleague - we are looking consciously, understanding all the problems of the search and finally expecting a long-awaited meeting. A psychologist is a specialist who for many becomes the main friend, the main support and support in the most difficult moment.
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