How To Find Your Purpose In Life. The Real Story Of Alena

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

… Usually Alena went to work when the dawn was just shyly gray on the horizon. At first, Alena did not think at all about how to find her purpose in life. A prosperous lady, a nice car, an iPhone of the latest model in her purse … The company where Alena worked was stable and predictable, like the Sun revolving around the Earth. No staff cuts, no salary cuts, a good social package, a prestigious office …

Gradually, however, the situation changed radically. Alena hated her job and this “mission”. Every day she said to herself - “today I will definitely write a letter of resignation,” but … the fear of losing the usual standard of living was overpowering. There was not much hope for her husband - he was quite satisfied with the modest mammoth, which he mined without unnecessary labor in his construction company. Together with Alena's money, a family with two children was enough for a pretty decent existence.

Trainings on femininity and purpose

In search of a simple and effective solution, Alyona in batches grabbed a variety of women's trainings on femininity and the meaning of life (fortunately, the salary allowed). And the thought that all you need is to develop your femininity correctly, then enthusiasm will finally flare up in her husband's eyes and he will happily rush off to make millions - Alena seemed more and more attractive.

- You are furious with fat, - the friends to whom Alena tried to "pour out her soul" shrugged their shoulders. Of course, Alena immediately enlisted them in the category of "toxic people" with whom it was recommended to limit communication at the trainings. Developing femininity, she spent almost all her salary on long skirts and dresses, which were entrusted with the noble function of forming a new image of Alena. True, there was no money left for a costume for her daughter in the dance studio, the girl was not taken to the competition … nothing, "a happy mother is a happy daughter", Alena also firmly remembered this.

Finding a mission in life

The next step towards the image of "inspiring muse, causing the desire to take care and shower with gifts" was in its determination to match some of Jackie Chan's heroes. Alena left work. Another training in finding a purpose gave her a clear conviction: her mission in life is to create beauty and comfort.

And Alena decided to start with the creation of Teddy bears and glamorous bracelets. I bought materials, master classes …

- Social networks are selling everything today! - she categorically declared to her husband, who doubted the commercial effectiveness of the project.

… However, social networks for some reason were decidedly unwilling to sell. Communicating with handicraft merchants at fairs, Alena began to understand: in order to sell at least one bracelet, you need to invest as much effort as she did not spend at work in a week. We need beautiful photos, interesting product descriptions, "selling" posts, filling out profiles on some resources, constant PR, PR and PR and PR again … It turned out that the mission found is not very vital …

- For all this "selling" fuss you waste time many times more than for the product itself, - confidentially told a new friend, Taya. Taya also made Teddy bears. She made the teddy bears - a feast for the eyes, but regular work did not give them a job. Even incoming orders often had to be abandoned due to lack of time. Simple calculations said that Taya could make good money by regularly making her bears, without making discounts on mood, weather, moon phases, magnetic storms and all that. Just sit down and sew ten bears a week. The client walked on his own and agreed to wait … within reasonable limits, of course. But Taya considered herself a creative person and could not just pick up and sit down to work, without inspiration.

- It's not just work, it's Creation! - Tye repeated with conviction.

As a result, she also earned on bears from time to time, and spent a lot of energy, and received modestly at her main job.

Development of femininity and unexpected results

… Time flew by unnoticed. Despite all the "practices for the development of femininity" regularly done by Alena, despite the feminine hairstyles, long skirts and even experiments on the absence of panties under these long skirts, the husband for some reason stubbornly did not strive to earn more. Moreover, he sincerely did not understand why it would be for him now to work for two, while his wife was lying on the couch and sawing off her marigolds. There was no more money for the au pair, Alyona's homework was boring, the children began to annoy.

- Maybe you can go back to work? - Taya asked when her friends were preparing for the next fair.

“They’re waiting for me there, of course,” Alena grunted with bitterness unexpected even for herself. Quite recently, she calculated how much was left of the financial "pillow" accumulated during the work, and the result was disappointing. Gaining femininity cost Alena a pretty penny, and in the meantime, somehow imperceptibly debts for housing and communal services, for car maintenance …

Routine or flight of the soul?

… - Misha, maybe you can put my husband somewhere? - Alyona, to be honest, really didn’t want to turn to her brother for help, whom she considered as an ordinary and down-to-earth man out of habit, who was engaged in routine without any flight of the soul.

But I had to. The bear never grabbed the stars from the sky, never dreamed of anything - just like that, to "avidly". Parents decided - let him go to design engineers like a father. The boy had nothing against it, he learned, went to the metalwork plant to work in his specialty. At first, without a category, he worked hard on the routine, then got the third category, the second … Now Mishka - no, already Mikhail Vladimirovich - worked as a leading designer at a large plant. Home is a full bowl, gets along with his wife, children are healthy, smart; the eldest recently left for Germany to study, the youngest is an excellent student at a mathematical school.

- Tired of him in the construction industry? - the brother smiled good-naturedly, gesturing for Alena to pour herself tea, take cookies and generally feel at home in his spacious kitchen. - If you really want to, you can think of something …

- He doesn't want anything! - Alena interrupted in her hearts. - He wants to sit on the priest exactly as he sat all his life, without any flight of the soul. And we are already head over heels in debt, I don’t know how we will get out …

- Well, why did you leave the "bread" place? I have long wanted to ask you, all the cases were not, - Mikhail Vladimirovich carefully peered into the haggard face of his sister. - Go, you were looking for your purpose in life?

Alena looked up at her brother in surprise.

- How did you guess?

- Well I know you, - Mikhail smiled. - You like to fly higher into the clouds … but forget to go down to the ground. Now it is fashionable to look for a destination. Only I'll tell you this, sister: there is a reasonable measure for everything. If you want to look for a destination - look, just not to the detriment of everyday life. Here's a living example for you - do you remember Vitka? Well, a dark-haired one, did you study with me? From the next door? Has he finished school with a gold medal?

Alena nodded. Of course, she remembered Mishka's classmate Vitka, whose blue eyes were peeped not only by Mishka's classmates, but even Alyonina.

- Everything was always easy for him. The guy had the abilities - both in languages, in the exact sciences, he grasped everything on the fly. I almost never did my homework and answered "fives" - the memory is phenomenal! After school I entered physics and mathematics, easy and simple. And what do you think? I met him recently. He is dressed somehow, buttons on his shirt are sewn with different threads … Well, okay, let's go sit with him - "for a meeting," so to speak. We talked. Anyone else in his place would have either become a plant director for a long time, or raised his business, or advanced in science. And Vitka … just like you, "looking for himself." The man has changed his fifties, he is “looking for himself”. His wife left him: she was tired of her that he did not stay anywhere for a long time, nowhere did he really earn money, only he wasted different money on courses. "Perelman," he says, "fucking." He was fond of radio communications - he could somehow develop it, monetize - he also could not bring his hobby to mind. As long as the parents helped financially, everything would still be fine. And when Dad died, the mother gave up abruptly - everything started rolling. I tell him - come on, they say, come to our NGO, we will find you something, you will quickly get used to your brains.

- And he?

- And he refused. You see, he doesn't like to do the same routine every day. His soul, you see, asks for flight. So that she is a soul, it means that she sang from work.

- So it’s right! - Alena raised her eyebrows.

- Here, you know, a very subtle thing. It’s right, maybe it’s right. If there is a magic bedside table, where you take money from - and they all do not end. Or while the parents feed-wate-contain. Then you can "look for yourself" and rush from work to work. And if you are already an adult, you have a family, children, something else will be correct. To do this very job. And it is not at all necessary to love her. You need to love your loved ones, and work - just work.

Need to work

Mikhail leaned back on the back of the sofa. Behind him, Alena saw a picture that his brother had burned in the last grades of school: a hero at a crossroads, near a large stone. It is written on the stone - "if you go to the right, if you go to the left, if you go straight, you have to work."

- In general, Alenonok, I'll tell you this: leave your husband alone, do not pull him like a carrot from the garden. He is in his place and thank God. But my good friends need an accountant remotely. I can recommend you. You can handle it. Conditions - worse, of course, than you had at work, but not bad enough. And in your free time - if you want, bears of your necks, if you want - bunnies, if you want - crocodiles.

… Returning home, Alena cried heartily over the unfulfilled dream, bursting like a balloon at a children's party. But through the rainbow scraps of dreams, the harsh reality showed through the debts for one, the other, the third … "You will go to the right, you will go to the left, if you go straight, you have to work," she remembered.

- Well, I will work for Mishka's acquaintances, - wiping away her tears, Alena said to her reflection in the mirror. And it seemed to her that the reflection sighed with relief.