2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How did you choose your partner?
Being in a relationship is not easy. It is even more difficult to find someone with whom you want to be together.
When choosing a partner, many of your interests are involved. What do you do, what do you want from life, how you like to spend time. Sympathy is caused by the external attractiveness and manners of the partner. Your self-image allows attention to highlight the right person. And all this affects which partner you choose and will see next to you every day. If you think, "Yes, I did not choose anything, this is my fate," then there is another opinion. Fate is something that we cannot influence. And we choose a partner ourselves.
What if, you chose a partner and used your common sense. You remembered past life experiences, turned to your values and assessments. They did not listen to their emotional and bodily experiences. Perhaps it was important what other people would think of your companion, what acquaintances would say, how relatives would appreciate it. In such cases, the mind is stronger and in control of the emotional impulses. Caution, consistency, propensity to predict, protect you from something. But they can stop the rapprochement so that it becomes impossible to take a step towards another.
A rational approach can fail. In a relationship, it is impossible to calculate all the steps before. Because, in the process of life, there are changes in circumstances. You develop, your values change.
And if, you chose only by feelings, then you acted passionately, quickly, impulsively. Most likely, this relationship is like fireworks. In such a carried away state, you do not care about remembering past experiences. When you are captured by stormy experiences, you will not argue about "I need to draw conclusions from the past years." During periods of difficult relationship with your partner, you closed your eyes and thought that you would change your difficult temper with your love. This is risky and it is possible that you will burn yourself. But there will be more joy than in the first case.
It happens that you start a relationship with someone who just happened to be close, "let's start, and then we'll see." This gives a state of security, it may not even be interesting, bored with this person, but stable and "I'm not alone, but like everyone else in a relationship." Periodically, there is a doubt about the need for this union. And then, you choose to listen to yourself or leave it as it is. And time shows whether you need such a partner.
There is no guaranteed formula that will make your union completely heavenly. But understanding your needs and desires helps to make the choice of a partner the most satisfying. The best choice that you make yourself and consciously.
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