2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Emotion recognition
The better a person recognizes his emotions, the more accurately he highlights the most important in them, the more clearly he sends emotional signals, the better the relationship with the partner.
• Place a pen and a piece of paper in front of you and sit for a while in silence. Then recall a situation in which you experienced pain or fear because of your partner's actions.
Try to focus on the moment when these emotions unfold in full force. What was the trigger? Was it some kind of word, gesture, expression? Write it down.
Try to identify body sensations, a panicky thought about yourself or a relationship, and an impulse - you wanted to run, hide, or start a fight. Write down everything you can name.
What have you done? Try to focus only on the action using verbs.
Can you find a new or “perfect” word to express your emotions at that moment?
How do you think your partner interpreted your behavior? Did he (she) understand what you really feel on a deeper level, or did he only see your irritation or indifference? Did you show your real emotions or hide them under the guise of anger (contempt, etc.)?
What do you think happened if you told your partner what you really felt? What does this say about your relationship?
If you carefully analyze how your emotions are revealed in interaction with your partner, you can understand the patterns of your behavior, and this is very important. By determining the sequence, you will be able to better control your reactions and communicate clearly to your partner what kind of reaction you want from him / her.
Unfinished proposals for the development of emotional contact between partners
A suitable metaphor for our relationship is …
When I think that you are mad at me I …
In the best times we had …
It's good that we …
There are things that we …
I am grateful that you …
I find it funny when I remember how we …
I've always wondered how you manage …
I am in doubt when you …
I don't understand why you …
When I think that we will grow old together I …
Most of all, I don't understand why we …
When I don't understand you, I perceive myself …
It seems to me that we will overcome this crisis …
It seems to me that the biggest contribution to our relationship is …
When you don't understand me I …
I am afraid of you when you …
I am glad when you …
Anything can be overcome because we …
I'm worried that we …
I think that when I get angry or annoyed you …
We are together because …
I see the strength of our relationship in …
The thought that we … is unbearable for me.
I experience something like a "dead end" when you …
While doing this exercise, I …
Technique "Pair dialogue". Purpose: awareness of ways of interacting in real life with a partner.
Materials: Whatman paper, the size of which should be calculated based on the number of participants (for two, half of Whatman A1), paints, pencils, felt-tip pens, etc. The exercise is performed silently. You have one sheet of paper for two and, for example, pencils are a space and a means of dialogue between partners. Set the exercise time on the timer - 15-20 minutes.
Work options. Drawing in turn. One of the partners, the first one begins to conduct a pictorial dialogue: he starts drawing, draws what he wants - the sun, flower, square, butterfly, line, etc. Then the second draws what he wants; it can be either a continuation of the partner's drawing, or your own drawing, completely free from him. And so in turn, during the entire time allotted for drawing. See what you ended up with.
Can your drawing be called a single whole drawing, or did it turn out to be something scattered and chaotic? Analyze the following questions with your partner: - What colors prevail in the picture? What are they talking about? - What was your joint picture about? - Who was leading in the drawing, setting the semantic load? - Who corrected or complemented the drawing of the other in the process of drawing? - Did you strive to understand your partner's intention? How successful was it? Share your impressions and together reflect on where in real interaction you behave in a similar way as in drawing, and what you should change in it.
One-time drawing. Before you is a general sheet and a general task - to draw a mood. Each of the partners is free to choose the territory he needs for drawing. Everyone draws their mood for 3 minutes, after which the partners change places, then continue drawing the partner for 3 minutes, and again change places.
Each of the partners looks at his drawing and analyzes the following questions: - Do you like the way the partner continued the drawing? - What do you want to do: continue the drawing you started or start correcting the drawing by your partner? Then the partners continue drawing again, after 3 minutes the partners change places again, and so on until the entire sheet is drawn. After completing drawing, together with a partner, the following questions are analyzed and discussed: - What did you end up with? - Are the boundaries between the drawings visible and how are they expressed? - Do you like the result of joint drawing of one drawing? - What feelings, thoughts did you find in yourself when you returned to your drawing? - Was the partner's intention clear?
Next, together comprehend your drawing, discuss your real interaction using the example of a drawing.
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