2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-18 02:26
When a relationship between a man and a woman turns from a partnership into a parent-child relationship, passion and awe of love, equality and flirting leaves the couple. Why? because do not sleep with mom. The psyche puts a strict taboo on incest. And since the function of a wife is a mother, it means that an intimate relationship with her is forbidden. The husband lacks a woman in this union (after all, instead of her the parent), and the wife - men (instead of him - the child). Sooner or later, their replacement appears in the form of a lover or mistress, or the relationship is completely transformed into a kindred format (everyday life, household, care, problem solving, protection), without any hint of partners' love.
How to understand that you have become a mother for your husband? How to stop being her?
Unequal contributions to relationships. The wife-mother gives more, the husband-child only takes.
It is important to restore the give-take balance: until the husband does the opposite act towards his wife, she needs to stop investing in him. And also it is important for a woman to learn to declare her desires, her “want”.
Total forgiveness of her husband's jambs.
Stop letting the man get away with it. He is not a kid who did not know what he was doing. For every action there must be an answer, compensation for pain, compensation for damage. The wife can increase the distance (move away), letting him know in such a way that it is unpleasant for her, it hurts and she will no longer allow herself to do this.
Taking the problems of the husband and family into their own hands.
Let the man feel his strength. See him as an adult, responsible person, and not as a weakling. He also feels your message and tries to correspond to it.
Merger and control, spying and tugging on the short leash of her husband.
Remember that your husband is not your pet, not a baby who cannot survive without you. Give a man freedom in his hobbies, work, hobbies, communication with friends, as well as the right to rest from you. Otherwise, you will soon turn into an annoying spider for him, who has captured him in his web.
Devaluation, ridicule, mockery, emphasizing the worthlessness and insolvency of a man, as well as pity for him kills respect and dignity.
A man who feels like an unrealized squish next to you will sooner or later go in search of his strength, success, to a place where no one will devalue him and, on the contrary, will look at him as a promising achiever.
Disregarding self, their needs, appearance.
An exhausted lady who looks like a grandmother who has lived through the century is difficult to perceive as a woman. Begin to love and appreciate yourself, be beautiful and well-groomed, make a list of your desires that concern only you, and start to fulfill it.
Remember that some husbands don't change, they don't grow up, no matter what you do. Initially, you chose the boy. To stay with him further or not is up to you.
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