Old Wife

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Men who are proactive in love can live with one wife all their lives and love her, and men who are in love are logs floating with the flow rather quickly cool down to their wife and almost certainly change her to a young one if they have material opportunities. If they don't, they lie on the couch, unhappy, with a beer.

Change of wife not only depends on this, of course. You can be very proactive, but the marriage still won't work, but often the need to change your partner to a new and younger one arises from the monotony and dullness of married life. And a proactive person does not allow this. Now I will describe this moment in more detail.

Women, you have probably heard many times trololo that, they say, the main thing is youth and beauty, and a man will always choose the more beautiful and young of the two. Maybe. But only if both are strangers to him, uninteresting and he is indifferent to both.

If a man has love or passion for one of them, he will choose her among hundreds of paradise houris. Simply because the gurias are indifferent to him, and this one is vitally important, for him it is the priority of life. Intense falling in love creates a priority by placing a loved one at the center of the universe.

But there is also a feedback.

Falling in love with a woman makes her very beautiful and bright in the eyes of a man, but falling in love itself must also feed on something. If a woman has long been objectively ugly, boring, dull, grumpy, predictable and communication with her does not promise any pleasures, then what should feed his love?

Man is a dynamic system, not a single feeling freezes in him, everything lives and is constantly being transformed. And if feelings are not fed by emotions, they die. Emotions are food for the senses, remember?

Although the feeling itself also recreates and enhances all emotions (compare, for example, just an evening and the same evening with a beloved one, emotions will be completely different, right?) That is, emotions feed feelings, and feelings trigger emotions.

Feeling, as it were, contains the guarantor of emotions, but new emotions must constantly nourish the feeling so that it does not exhaust itself. If the feeling has already grown and strengthened, it will last a long time without food, but not forever.

And two fish in a marriage rather quickly plunge each other into default.

Even if at the beginning they fell in love, because they were carried by some streams to each other: she was warmed up by films, books about love, some of his fantasies, he was looking for sex and romance in one bottle, so when they met each other, they opened and fell in love, finding a lot in common in each other (and people generally have a lot in common when they open up and tune in to each other's waves). They decided that someone for them, perhaps God, made them so suitable, and then arranged their meeting. Like God has nothing else to do. But yes, they think so, because everything happened by chance for them and turned out to be so successful. And since everything happened by itself, without their efforts, they continue to do nothing.

And they can live for some time in a dynamic balance, admire each other, prevent each other's desires, hug each other all the time and admire each other every minute. All this will be sincere, because between them is the same symmetrical strong pull that creates balance. But it all happened again by itself, it just happened, they don’t know how to do this, and they don’t want to learn, it seems to them that the magic will then be destroyed.

In fact, the only way to maintain this "magic" is to take control of the situation and become proactive. Otherwise, very soon it will turn out that for some reason there is no craving, everything is somehow exhausted.

And as soon as the husband turned sour and rarely began to admire his wife, she began to grumble and nag him, and when she began to grumble, he could no longer admire her any more. Or vice versa. He was still hot, and she got bored, began to behave accordingly, to be capricious and angry, and he, too, became depressed. He's a fish, and so is she.

Both expect that attraction will appear in them somehow by itself, the other will somehow do it to them or God again, leaving all her affairs like a grandmother in the old Yeralash, hurrying just to help her grandson: “I'm running, I'm running, little !"

The default also affects the appearance of the spouses badly. On their objective attractiveness. If they are decent people and do not transfer their bored in marriage look immediately to the side, then they begin to sink in the image and lose a resource (especially if it has not yet been pumped).

A woman in love wants to be beautiful, and if a woman has stopped loving, and flirting on the side is taboo for her, then she has no incentive to spend energy on beauty. She may develop laziness and bad eating habits.

The fire of motivation that she received from her love (and sexual desire) earlier disappeared. The same can happen with a man. If he is not a womanizer who needs to be liked by women, and his wife no longer worries him, then the temptation to eat chips during the movie instead of the gym becomes much greater than when his libido is at its best.

Yes, people are engaged in image not for the sake of love, and even more so with their health - not for the sake of love, but still being in love and the desire to be liked create an important stream of motivation, and without this motivation can gradually fade away. And then inertia will come into force.

Once her habit was charging, but now, on the contrary, to charge she needs to break her habit of getting up to work at the last moment. Previously, sex and communication with your spouse were the main evening anti-stressors, but now this one does not work and others are needed, for example, food or alcohol.

So the default gradually turns spouses into objectively unattractive carcasses. And the unattractiveness intensifies the default. And now everyone can say: he has deteriorated so much, he used to be better. But it was spoiled by default.

That is, look, a woman with whom a man is in love will be the most beautiful for him. Dima had and has a huge selection of young and beautiful women, and for many years he has not taken his eyes off Nina, who is not a beauty and she is many years old. Roma, who has even more choice, any girls, does not take his eyes off Ira, who, although a charming witch, is objectively not the most beautiful woman, and even less the youngest.

But try to tell them that their women are not the most beautiful and old. Dima will say that he, as an artist, knows better. And Roma will say that he does not understand what beauty is without sex, and fuck she gave up, and Ira has such a sex that it blows him all the time. But this is their subjective perception, of course, they are just very much in love, for them their women are so attractive. If they suddenly stop loving (God forbid) everything will be different.

Love is not fixed in any man in love, he can stop loving. But if he is proactive, then he constantly brings the woman into a state of burning and shine, which in turn causes attraction in him. Do you see how this happens?

You put energy into something, it sparkles and sparkles, and you admire it and therefore put energy into it again. This is also a vicious circle (which may open one day).

The dynamic balance feeds itself and therefore can last for a very long time, in fact, for a very long time, but for this the cycle of your proactivity should not be interrupted. If it is interrupted, there will be less beauty for you on the other side and you will not be able to bring yourself to admire it.

Many women do not see the logic in pursuing their image when they are 40-50 years old. What for? If a man loves for his soul, even if he loves so, but the body still cannot be made as attractive as at 20. This is a stupid point of view.

Taking care of your image is necessary in order to build up your charm. They love not only for the soul, one soul is not enough to want to be physically close to a person, to be in close contact with him. This requires charm (subjective, which occurs when we are in love, and objective, which fuels love).

The charm at 50 can be no less than at 20. At first glance, the charm of a 50-year-old woman is not as noticeable as the attractiveness of a 20-year-old, but with close contact with her, an adult and at least a little pumped in this woman can cause attraction much stronger. Not every passer-by is like a young girl, but the man who came into contact with her.

The trouble with women in their 40s is that they lose their physical attractiveness and do not acquire charm. And sometimes it happens that their charm developed normally, grew, but at some point they completely stopped working on the body, fell out of love with their physical I.

Old women are spoiled by default, they are frustrated in love due to a lack of proactivity, their own and men, and then they additionally frustrate their image, stop practicing their image, their charm and style, and finally block this line of resources: image-love. Now they can only be engaged in family, work, make friends and, perhaps, get a little carried away by some kind of study, well, also altruism, of course (since one has to think about the "soul", since love is not interesting). And that's all. They are unattractive as women because of frustration, and they think that it is their age. No.

If a person does not develop in some direction, he very quickly begins to get bored. Either a person goes to the next level of intimacy in a relationship, or these relationships bore him and he looks for others.

This is very logical: monotonous stimuli cease to work, development is needed. But only proactive people can develop relationships consciously, and not let them drift.

Sometimes it happens that the relationship is let go, but it still develops, because people develop other resources and everything somehow successfully develops in love. But you shouldn't wait for such a coincidence, it is important to pay attention to the relationship.

The very phrase "I love" - contains a description of the action, volitional, intentional. If a person does not control his love at all, then one should say “they love me” or even “they love me”, since the source of the will is not determined.

“To love” is to actively participate in the process of mutual rapprochement, and this can only be done by inspiring and stimulating the second to love, and not just by experiencing passive pleasure.

And then it turns out that over many years of marriage you have cultivated such a feeling, such closeness built that the thought of giving up and starting all over again with a stranger will seem like a nightmare. The loss of a loved one will be not only undesirable, but the biggest disaster.

Well, if a person lives in a swamp of default and suffocates without energy, then the thought of starting all over again with someone new seems fresh, exciting, stimulating, and really brings a breath of air and deliverance.

Therefore, if you have been living in default for a long time, a divorce is a good decision for you, especially if you have no thoughts on leaving (especially if the children have grown up). Living in a swamp is very bad. But having fallen in love with each other, you need to build relationships in such a way that a big default is not allowed, and from a small one you quickly go into balance.