What To Do To Make The New Year's Miracle Happen? (an Exercise)

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The holiday period is usually associated with a huge number of worries, spending money, plans for the future, summing up. People either devalue the idea of fabulousness and "miracle" - this is all for children who do not need to go to work, go shopping, cook something for the festive table, and so on.

“Lack of festive mood” also falls into this category. A person sees that there is a holiday atmosphere around, but he feels like a stranger at this celebration. He cannot emotionally share the joy and anticipation of something good, too much routine and necessary deeds.

Either secretly or openly, they still believe in the New Year's miracle. They sum up the results, write plans, carry out certain rituals, hope that everything will be even better than we would like, and wishes will come true.

Let's take a closer look at the phenomenon of waiting for a miracle and why, in one way or another, it is activated closer to the New Year.

To begin with, people who discount the idea of a miracle are not so wrong. It's not that they wouldn't want something magical, and it's not that we don't live in a world of fairies, elves and unicorns. And the fact is that the idea of a New Year's miracle was originally designed for a passive expectation that something omnipotent from the outside would come and solve all problems. So this idea is really justified for children. It seems to children that everything happens “by the wave of a magic wand”, since they do not know what effort it costs the adults around them.

Does this mean that the idea of an infantile passive expectation of endless happiness is a stupid idea that must be got rid of? No, it’s not like that.

The fact is that each of us has an ID, the part that is commonly called the Inner Child. True, it is also customary to idealize this part, although there are enough shortcomings in it as well as advantages. Therefore, it is important not to rush to the second extreme after devaluation. Do not decide that since the Child wanted a miracle, then it is absolutely necessary to provide this miracle. Remember that the Inner Child is not only a creative part, but also irrational, selfish, capricious, extremely emotional and does not appreciate the consequences of their desires and actions. There is a Parent and an Adult for this.

The inner child is especially actively making itself felt at a time when everything around is simply screaming that now it is possible to quite reasonably demand a piece of a free miracle. This is exactly what the child wants. No effort, no failure, no attempt. If there are actions, then they are indirect, childish, in no way directly related to the desired consequences. For example, you can make a wish under the chimes, or write the innermost on a piece of paper and burn it, and then throw the ashes into the champagne. There are many options. A miracle, like in a fairy tale, just knocks on the door, the main thing is to wait and want. The rational, adult part, of course, will be extremely skeptical about this.

But the Inner Child is not going anywhere, and I suggest you try to get to know this part of you more. Take a piece of paper and write down the desired miracle in as much detail as possible. Not abstractly “to meet a prince / princess”, “fabulously rich”, “so that everything is good and no one gets sick,” but with all the details. How exactly should you get something you want? Who should give it to you? How will you manage this? How will you feel? How will what you receive will affect you, what will change? What are the risks of getting what you want?

And most importantly, how will you pay for what you received?

You can write this in the form of a fairy tale or a short story, it is important to remember that you are exploring your childish part. Unleash your imagination. If, during or after writing, you have a feeling of resentment, sadness, disappointment and understanding that this “fairy tale” cannot be realized in reality, even after trying to rewrite it, turning it into a real plan for action, or that the price is for a “miracle”Is too high - sympathize with yourself. Take care of yourself and comfort yourself. Try to understand what kind of need is behind your expectation of a miracle and how exactly you could fill its deficit. This is no longer a task for the Child, but for the Parent and the Adult.

Perhaps inner harmony is no less important than the expectation of the New Year's miracle, do you think?