2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
WISHES FOR NEW YEAR
While the New Year's chimes are striking, most Russians make wishes. The list is not that wide. Usually it is: “Get married - have a baby - lose weight - get a good education - find a decent job - start earning more - not get sick - buy your own home - buy a car - quit smoking - quit alcohol - start eating right and lead a healthy lifestyle - improve relationship with someone (family, etc.) - moving somewhere - learning something new - becoming a boss - having an interesting vacation, etc. But as practice shows, on average, only about 30% of what is desired and envisioned comes true. Alas and ah.
Why is that? After all, our desires are extremely sincere and seem quite realizable! After all, what we ask for has been and is being achieved by millions of people? Why not with us? What's wrong?
The point is that it is important to know: one of the basic axioms of practical psychology is: “If you want to get something that you never had, you must clearly see your goal, make such efforts that you have never made, refuse that you've never given up before. Hence, the main reason for the chronic failures of those people who are planning some radical changes in their lives for the New Year is obvious: this can become real only if the very principles of organizing life are changed, additional capacities are turned on and empty consumables are turned off. If this does not happen, then life will remain exactly the same level as last year.
Hence, wanting to achieve a radical improvement in your life in the New Year and making appropriate desires to the chimes, setting certain goals, for a start it is important to clearly define in your head (or even better - on paper) the following:
- exactly how much is what you dream of when it comes to material values (apartments, cars, summer cottages, etc.);
- what competencies are needed (education, knowledge, skills, etc.) to make a career, get some kind of post, start a business, etc.;
- who exactly and personally can be your guide along this path of success - by surname: friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, husband / wife, lover / mistress, own children, parents, coach, psychologist, coach, authoritative specialist from the Internet, etc. etc.;
- where will the additional resource of your time be taken to achieve the assigned tasks (watch less TV, surf the Internet, talk on the phone, etc.; improve the logistics of movement to work; sleep less during the day; on the contrary, go to bed earlier to be vigorous during the day); stop loving relationships so as not to waste time traveling through the whole city);
- where will the additional sources of financing for the project come from (save up, earn more, sell something, borrow, etc.);
- what and whom you are ready to get rid of: from illusions, from other alternative tasks and responsibilities, from sweets, from some kind of spending, from some kind of social circle, etc.
- what specific terms are allocated for the implementation of this plan, deadlines.
It is important to remember: "If there is no motivation, money and time to achieve a goal, it becomes a dream!" and "A dream turns into a goal only when it is clear where the motivation, time and money to achieve it will come from."
Hence, it is clear that the main thing in the New Year is the absence of empty illusions, clarity of motivation and planning. Motivation is like adjusting the image when shooting at a target: if the image is indistinct, then you won't hit the target, even with the most modern weapons. Therefore, when making a guess, first ask yourself clearly: “Do you really need this? Are you sure? Prove it to me with words! If you were able to express the significance, necessity and usefulness of your goal in words, speaking in psychological terms, verbalized the Goal, only then you will have a chance for everything else. And work begins according to the scheme described above.
It is equally important to understand the laws of relativity: when we move away from something, in fact, we are simultaneously approaching something else! This is the key to the psychology of success: that you need to act not by depriving yourself of something, but by replacing one with another, less useful - more useful and enjoyable!
And if we do not clearly understand - where exactly we are going, why we need it and what we will get in a new point of life for ourselves, our departure from somewhere, the rejection of something will be perceived by us, our brain, first of all - negatively: as a tragic loss, depriving yourself of something important, reducing your capabilities, etc. And when our brain perceives something as negative, then, of course, it does not want to do it! He does it with tears in his eyes, without motivation. By deceiving your master - that is, you. In fact, it no longer does it, but simply imitates it. With the appropriate performance. None and zero.
HAPPY 2021!
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