What Do You Want?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

"Nobody does this", "Think what people will say!" of people. The reaction to such comments is different, however, for the most part, people listen to the opinion of especially close people, even if not immediately, then later.

It is interesting that, as a rule, we ourselves can find in such messages what we think is right, mainly it concerns changes in our life. We are able to convince ourselves that this is the correct point of view. Therefore, it is not worth changing anything. But the consequences of such consent do not always lead to the fact that life becomes better.

This is not at all about not having to listen to anyone, here everything is a little more subtle. Often we are tormented by contradictions, and quite strongly. Remember how you were worried when you realized that you had missed some opportunity. In the life of everyone there was such a case. More often than not, we try not to think about it, because it hurts. After all, I have to admit that it was I myself who missed the chance that could change my whole life.

This happens not only because we became scared, because the unfamiliar always scares, or we did not have enough strength to make a risky decision. Often the fact is that people are very susceptible to the rules of life that society puts forward - these are the rules of morality. By the way, one of the statements of modern morality is that stability is very good. I agree, but with a proviso, if this stability does not hinder development.

Often, guided precisely by morality, people try to build their personal life, career, business, while, to put it mildly, they are not very successful. At such moments, people are very worried, because they did everything right, listened and did what others told them. However, the result is not only unpleasant, but also quite seriously frustrating. Often in such cases, people say, "I didn't want or wanted this at all."

It so happens that people forget about morality. Morality is perceived by many as a system of internal prohibitions, although this is not the case (in morality there are much more prohibitions). Morality is about values, about what is really valuable for a person and what he strives for, it is the values that shape and influence our desires. The substitution of moral rules for one's values often leads to disappointment in life and experiences. After all, a person, achieving some results, relies on the opinion of society, and not on his own values.

Relying and listening only to the opinion of others and society, a person forgets about his own values and desires. But we all have our own values, dear ones. But it often happens that society with its rules does not just disapprove of a person's desires, but literally prohibits them (I'm not talking about the criminal code). In other words, society puts a ban on the desires of a particular person, prohibits him from wanting and achieving his goals in some way.

For any of us, our values will always be decisive, of course, they can be adjusted if necessary, but it is not worth subordinating them exclusively to the requirements of society. The important thing is that no one can take away from a person his values and desires, if the person himself does not believe that this is possible. Each of us has the right to want what can bring happiness. And, as you know, the result directly depends on the strength of desire. Ask yourself: "What do I really want, really?"

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.