2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The easiest way to love yourself is when you do everything "right." Moreover, if this correctness was explained in childhood. You sit quietly and calmly, do not disturb your mother after work to relax in front of the TV - a good girl. I won first place at the regional Olympiad in physics - well done, all like a father, dad now (only now) can be proud of you, good boy. You cook, you clean, you raise your children yourself, you don't grumble or argue with anything - well done, a good wife
It’s easy to love yourself when you’re doing everything “right” and according to plan. But what about loving yourself in moments of such enchanting fakap that it's time to change your name and leave for another continent? Or when it hurts so much from betrayal and disappointment that it's hard to breathe and open your eyes in the morning.. How about loving yourself, when there is no longer any strength to be strong, when it seems that you will never be strong - never? Or when you simply do not know how, where, and most importantly - why move on.. At such moments, continuing to love yourself is a special talent.
It's really not easy to love and appreciate yourself at such moments. Why are there minutes, hours and days.! But self-respect helps to get out of this almost vicious circle. Suddenly?))
Just remember how much there was in your life. How much pain and disappointment there was. In people, situations, the world in general. And every time you did it and moved on. Yes, perhaps not always with the result we would like. But the main thing is that he coped and moved on. I grew up and made conclusions. Remember how difficult it was to delve into your feelings. The real ones. How difficult it was to even recognize them and give them a name - shame, fear, rage. How difficult it was to adapt to this format of "correctness", containing yourself in the form that did not correspond to you.
Even if you are not perfect and not always pleased with yourself. But who is perfect in principle?) Who is happy with himself 24/7? They just don't exist)
It's a little strange to adore yourself in non-stop mode, even more likely - it's not very cool) Sometimes you can quite facepalm from your sparkling humor, sometimes you can be quite angry that you just can't send your lazy carcass to such a coveted yoga. At times, you may even be disappointed that expectations do not coincide with reality. But please. Let the sense of your own worth not disappear anywhere. No conditions. Just.
Please understand that you will not be able to go out and go back into your life. You are not an ideal person, something in you can be broken and will be junk from time to time. This is fine.
Please leave me alone. Forgive this imperfection of yours and those “terrible” moments when you don't fit in. It is impossible to be good for everyone. And too tiring. And most importantly - why? Stay good - for yourself. Otherwise, how are you better than those who made the “right” person out of you?
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