2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Do you know what always gives me confidence in an interesting and irreversibly bright future? Children. Especially those who have already entered the fervent period, called in science "adolescence", ie. 15-18. I've been thinking about them a lot in the last week. Not because I suddenly yearned for work at school, but because they still surprise and inspire, and this is quite understandable)
They are amazing. Not because there are many more opportunities and open doors before them than there were even 10 years ago. And because they grab these opportunities without fear and reproach.
They believe in themselves. Yes, with varying degrees of success and not as confidently as experienced adults, but they are full of unbreakable faith in a prosperous tomorrow. At 16, they make plans that Napoleon would envy and do not just believe - they act in this direction.
They are bold. They don't just dream, they do it with their eyes wide open. Mistakes do not scare them, but they show what exactly needs to be done next time to avoid new ones.
They are cocky. Because in these dreams they go so far as many "adult" moralophiles and rule lovers never dreamed of. They are not afraid to say "I do not agree" to a person who is simply older, because there is respect and all the work. They disagree because they feel that way. They demand when they know that the truth is on their side.
They are honest. They call what they feel with the right words and do not torment themselves for anger, fear, or hatred. Even if she belongs to close people, even if - to her parents.
They are strong. They admit that something is happening to them and is happening "wrong" much faster and more courageously than even their parents do. They go to the school counselor and say they can't cope with emotions they don't understand. They confidently open google to find a psychotherapist, managing to earn money for him on their own, if it didn't work out a little with their parents.
They are gullible. They can be made to believe in anything, from their own steadfastness to a complete feeling of worthlessness, if you know where to beat and beat methodically.
They are so strong and so fragile at the same time. How often a request for help hides behind external anger and shouts, not daring to vote. Behind hatred and outright rebellion, how often such a childish and bitter need for love and care is hidden.
Let's not take away their faith that everything can work out. Because then it is catastrophically difficult to restore it. Let's try to understand what is behind it before taking their words at face value and taking literally and personally all their negativity. And we will help them cope with their own feelings and experience them.
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