2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In these dynamic times, people are tired of manic productivity, success masks, embellished posts and photo reports on social networks. Increasingly, we try to be honest with ourselves, we begin to turn inward, to explore our identity and true "I". How to remain yourself, be stable in your center, and at the same time be realized in society?
- Could you beg on the street?
- Depends on the circumstances…. But I would not want to.
“I don’t mean that life will make you do it. As a game, could you go and ask people for money?
- It would be unpleasant for me. But if it's vital, then it could.
- Yes, it does not matter, but just prove to yourself! RESET! Each has a line that he does not want to cross. So, we set the position of this line ourselves and can move it.
This line is so far from my center, and I do not want to move it somewhere there. And for what? Prove to myself that I can manage my boundaries? Or see how fragile my boundaries are? So it will not be destroyed for long.
- Although this is in theory, but in practice I don’t know. Maybe you need some kind of mask.
- Mask …
- Well yes. Role. After all, if I am not really me, but a homeless person, for example, and a homeless person asks for alms, this is usual.
- So almost everyone has a mask on their face, rarely anyone remains himself.
“And I want to be myself, at least most of the time.
- In a megalopolis it is not necessary, it is dangerous to expose your weaknesses.
Yes, I understand what you mean. We must always be efficient and productive, strong, optimistic, cheerful, bright and creative. Like people from advertisements.
To be an ordinary person, to be yourself is a weakness.
- You know how interesting it is to watch … Here I have a car a little higher than the cars, and I stand in a traffic jam and look in the neighboring cars, it doesn't matter a guy, a girl … And they listen to music or just think about something. While they think that no one is looking at them, there is no mask at them … and the facial expressions and expressions are completely different! As soon as they notice that they are being looked at, a mask immediately appears on the face, either of a serious man, or a girl can put on a business mask of some kind.
I wonder how to tell where is the mask and where is the "real" person? Maybe we consider the "real" the mask that we want to see, the role that we expect now? How to determine where the mask ends and the true personality begins?
“I think masks make our boundaries flexible. One more role seems to fit in us. And one more. And further. These roles live, we fill them with ourselves, our energy, and now this is not a role, but a whole personality. This is not just a "businesslike" girl, but precisely such a "businesslike" as I.
- That is, masks are needed to designate roles, and roles are needed so that both us and other people understand by what rules we play. To operate safely in society. For example, what is safe as a business woman is risky to do as a wife. My behavior at home and at work can be very different, but at the same time I am me, the same person.
- Also for personal growth. Taking on roles and bringing them to life, we expand like a balloon. Our borders are expanding, and with them our opportunities.
We experience pressure from within to act in accordance with our physiological data and character traits, and external pressure to take a certain position in society. A contradiction arises: to remain ourselves, to be authentic and stable in our center, and at the same time to be realized in our social group.
To resolve this contradiction, we use masks. We need masks to denote social roles for which boundaries and rules are clear. By playing by the rules, we reduce the pressure from society. Living the role, we fill it with our identity, this role becomes unique, a part of our "I".
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