2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Imagine a gas tank that has 3 zones.
The first one is green when you are full of strength and energy, even if troubles happen, they do not irritate you, and you yourself are in high spirits.
The second zone is yellow. When your resources are half depleted. You are still in a good emotional state, but more often you experience fatigue, irritability intensifies, thoughts appear that it is time to take time out.
The third zone is red. When there is practically no gasoline left, a red light is on, warning that the car is about to stop.
Both emotionally and physically, the person in the red zone is severely exhausted. As a rule, we are too irritable in this state, and irritation, in turn, changes to apathy, fatigue, anger.
There is a cycle: Irritation - anger - apathy, the most unpleasant. Because high irritability causes anger, and this emotion itself is very strong, it takes away the last resources, and we quickly slide into apathy.
Why did I give the example of a gas tank?
It is of course very important to stay in the green zone. Monitor the level of our psychophysiological forces. Because from the yellow zone to the green, it is much easier to return than from the red to green.
What to do about it?
Step one. Status update. Dear reader, take a short pause, sit back in your chair and determine for yourself which zone you are in here and now. The classic said: "If you do not know where to sail, then no wind will be favorable for you."
Step two. Updating resources.
What does it mean?
Resources are actions, thoughts, techniques, people that help us improve our emotional state.
Why update them? Because we do not use all resources consciously. An example, when we feel a little apathy or when we are sad, we can call a friend or girlfriend and talk about abstract things.
We do this unconsciously, we do not ask him for help, but from the very conversation, his manner of speech, emotional state, we feel better, we switch. Think, dear reader, what you did when it was not easy for you, analyze how you dealt with the situation, try to write out and update these resources.
Step three. List the resources that help and fill you. Not less than 30 pieces
This is important because resources are very individual and there is no general classification. For example, if for one person, running is a resource, after which he feels great, both physically and psychologically. For another, running is not suitable, the person will suffocate, become exhausted and the general condition will worsen.
Be a little selfish, write down those things that give pleasure, fill you with strength.
By the way, compiling a list of amenities is in itself a resource for us, because we remember positive feelings, emotions associated with what helps us.
And the most important, fourth step, without the implementation of which, nothing will work. - Go ahead!
Of course, this technique is not an antidote to all problems, because, from the green zone to the red zone, you can move very quickly, after traumatic circumstances, serious problems, losses, experiences that you cannot cope with on your own.
In such cases, it is certainly better to seek help from a psychologist, psychotherapist. But for everyday tasks, keeping oneself in the green zone, as a counteraction to emotional burnout and prevention of depression, the method of finding resources is effective.
Practice, friends, because as the classic said: "Knowledge is also wisdom, wisdom is the application of knowledge."
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