2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The most global positive result from taking a course of insight therapy is an increase in resilience. Moreover, it increases significantly. To describe what “resilience” is in very simple terms, it is the ability to cope with what previously seemed unbearable and impossible. Those (stressful) situations (and problems) that previously easily "threw" us deeply into traumatic experiences or simply not into the best, depressed state, cease to be dangerous triggers.
Personal resilience - it is a firm knowledge based on subjectivity that I can withstand, not collapse and cope in any circumstances. In a sense, it is confidence in one's own very reliable integrity.
Obviously, with such confidence, the neurotic need to avoid certain situations due to the fear of not coping with them disappears, and as a result, we have more opportunities to act, and to act safely. Of course, increased resilience makes it possible to build more adequate, healthy, flexible and reliable boundaries of one's own personality - and this is another topic that is acutely felt by most people traumatized in childhood.
When I know exactly who I am, both on the bodily (unconscious) and on the conscious levels, the question no longer arises of where my personal boundaries lie. Even if the consciousness, according to the old habit, "misses" the moment of invasion into them, then the body will tell you for sure that the "invasion" has begun - and this discomfort cannot be ignored.
Resilience in insight is enhanced by at least two important factors: the restoration of subjectivity, and the "digging out" and "extracting into the light of day" the resources that previously served the traumatic experience. When the next trauma (or conflict) "lying in the body" for years has been worked out to its depth - that is, its bodily, emotional, rational and volitional components have been removed / changed - we no longer have a reason to waste energy on returning to similar traumatic situations in search of healing … Metaphorically speaking, we no longer have pain there - and therefore, there is no point in spending money on painkillers. Or - another well-known metaphor - you can leave your favorite "rakes" alone and not stomp on them))
Another important, but not always realized, effect of the stability of personal boundaries is that we do not get involved in what we do not need. We do not promise to fulfill what, in our very depths, we are not going to fulfill. We do not associate with those people who are unpleasant to us - or, if circumstances do not allow us to refuse to communicate with them, at least we are aware of our feelings and sensations from these people, keeping at an optimal distance. And of course, this is about the ability to say "no" - I would add, the ability to say it in time, before unnecessary obligations are taken, inappropriate obligations began to act, and the resources we need were spent on something else.
All this together meets the most basic motivation - I want to live MY own life, I want to be "for myself" (first of all), I want what I do to be mine without any doubts. When the need to acquire (return to oneself) our life is realized, we are more and more rooted in our True Self - and this support becomes the most reliable in life.
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