Overdue Rules Of Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The overwhelming majority of people live by the rules that they received in childhood. The authors of these rules were, of course, the parents. And then, in childhood, these rules seemed quite reasonable. Until a certain moment, they helped in life. And then, as if something broke. And it seems that you do things in your life according to these rules, but the result does not please you at all.

It's a shame that such situations are repeated more and more often, and in almost all areas of life. Either at work with the boss there is a misunderstanding and conflict, even if you quit, then a colleague frankly framed. In a relationship that seemed to start so gloriously, now there is only resentment and growing coldness. The internal state and mood, along with it, is already in the area of the plinth.

But you have to hold on, because that's how they taught in childhood. And you hold on, although already at the limit. And the main thing is dullness in my soul. Some kind of haze. As if the sunshine and fresh air are not enough. But for the umpteenth time you lie to yourself that this is just a black streak in life, and soon everything will change. It seems like an adult, but you believe that everything will get better, by itself.

And meanwhile, even to yourself you are getting worse and worse. It is understandable what kind of self-love we can talk about when there is no time for it. We have to solve problems, and there are a lot of them. And it accumulates inside: roofing felts anger towards yourself, roofing felts to the whole world. Indeed, in the rules that from childhood there were only two colors: white and black. Good or bad, that's all. And life simply does not fit into such a framework.

Imagine that the rules that you cherish are useless. How old are you 30-40, so count it. Your parents took these rules back when they lived in a country that does not exist. There is no longer that morality, and the society itself has changed. What has lost its expiration date does not work. Yes, these rules are no longer valid.

But you can create your own ones that suit you. After all, even if you look back, can you say with confidence that your parents, who lived by these rules, were really happy? Rules are only useful when they lead a person to happiness. Otherwise, it turns out that you are trying to squeeze the whole world into your rules. You already know the result.

To create, to create your own is always more interesting, especially when it comes to your life and your personal happiness. Of course, this cannot be done overnight, but you can start. Fear can be a big obstacle; this is a normal reaction. After all, the habit of living by such rules has been formed for many years, and changing habits is always scary. But sometimes it is necessary. If it is very scary, imagine what life will be like in 30-40 years, if nothing changes, what feelings will be for yourself, for those who are around. Imagine this picture. It so happens that such a future is much more terrible than the present.

It is useful and important to remember that only the master of his life can make it better.

Live with joy!

Anton Chernykh.