2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I want to bring to your attention my new idea. The project is long-term, which will consist of 64 parts called "The Rules of Life". By observing at least 2 of them on a regular basis, you will improve your life 2 times. In the material sense and in the sense of free time. This article will be devoted to responsibility, responsibility for your life.
The first and foremost rule is that you must take responsibility for your life into your own hands. We must clearly and clearly understand that only you are the creator of your life. That only because of or because of you you have what you have, you do not have what you don’t have, what happens to you or does not happen what does not happen. This includes everything: the quality of your relationship, achievements, successes, failures, physical and psychological health. I give a footnote that you are not responsible for tragedies and disasters. If you are in a catastrophe, tragedy, you have been injured, then you are hardly responsible for this. But you can also analyze your thoughts, the way of life that was before you got into this situation, in order to understand that she wanted to show you what should be changed. But this is a separate topic, it is also specific.
Basically, in an ordinary, measured, normal life, you take responsibility only for yourself. Only because of you and thanks to you, you have what you have and do not have what you do not have. If something happens to you that you do not agree with or are not happy with, the first thing to ask yourself is, “What did I do wrong? What was I thinking about before? Whom did you believe? Whom did you not believe? Why did I believe in this and not believe in this? How did it happen that it was easier for me to believe this, but not notice reality, for example? What have I, and to whom have I said something or have I said too much, or have not said it?"
I would also include responsibility for complaints here. Why are you complaining to your aunt on the street, on the train to someone? As the saying goes, it is easier for a stranger to speak. Why not go and tell directly the person to whom you have a complaint that this and that, I don't like it, I like it, we leave it as it is, and let's change this, and here you are me offended and let's do something about it ?! And let this conversation last for many minutes, many hours, many days, even years. But, in the end, this situation will somehow get better. And when you only tell yourself or only someone else, this is a bag for you. You have not taken responsibility for yourself, this is some denial of the problem. You pretend that you do not have a problem and do not solve it.
The simple formula is events + reactions = consequences. If you do not like the consequences and cannot change the events in any way, you change your reaction. If your reaction is condemning, spiteful, negative, then you need to ask the question: “Why? What worries me here? Where did I get such a deep, strong, affective reaction to such simple or difficult events? What do I need to understand about myself in order to understand these emotions and this situation? And when you understand the situation, your emotions will be replaced by calm ones and the consequences will be different, more satisfying.
I will not say that if your reaction changes, the world will become different. This will not happen. But the world will be easier for you to perceive, it will be easier to give some bonuses. Because you will be more open to different things, learn to analyze, feel, the situation, forgive, rethink, experience, process everything in yourself calmly. And it won't be a disaster for you.
Everything you experience today is the result of your past choices. For example, suppose you received a $ 400 award. We went and bought ourselves a fur coat, as a result we were left again without money. Situation two - you receive a $ 400 premium. They went and found some kind of investment fund, where they invested the $ 400. Tomorrow we have withdrawn more and you have money. This is the result of your actions.
If you are in poor health, then you have been eating bad food. If you have a bad relationship, then you or your partner turned a blind eye to the problems. But first of all, take responsibility for yourself. But he wants, does not want - these are his problems. The main thing is that you are ready to change your life. And, believe me, when you start changing your life, noticing everything and not overlooking problems, but doing something about it, he will notice and will also do it.
The environment changes a lot when you change. That is, everything that you have now, you somehow contributed to that problem area. Ask yourself: “How? What have you done for this? Or what did you not do? Remember, there are 3 things to watch for: your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Actions can be directly controlled. For thoughts and feelings, I recommend observing and asking questions in places when they become uncomfortable.
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