2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Many people know that I am "in the subject" because I have been living for five years after the announcement of the verdict: "Inoperable stage of oncology"
Now I am in remission, and this person, who started treatment at the same time as me, has not been in remission even once in 5 years, and, nevertheless, he lives because he wants it!
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Of course, there are especially aggressive forms of cancer that take lives in a matter of weeks. That was the case with my brother.
I learned that he had melanoma in February 2017. Volodya lived in Moscow, and I asked him by phone to go to Matrona of Moscow, but I felt some uncertainty in my brother's voice and my own powerlessness. When the conversation ended, I cried for a long time, because I realized that this was most likely everything …
Volodya passed away on March 9th. It turned out that he had known about the disease since the summer, Russian doctors are in no hurry to deal with our fate. It was explained to his brother that in case of type 2 diabetes and cardiac unworthiness, which he had, radiation and chemotherapy were not shown to him, and for some reason he refused to fight. I think if Vladimir had shown activity and fought, as I once did when I was also denied treatment, not seeing the prospects in me as in a patient, he would have lived longer.
I knew many people who were just the second stage of my type of oncology, but they accepted it with humility and left.
One woman, whom I met in the queue to see a district oncologist and literally “drove” to other doctors, also took the disease quickly.
“My husband won't tell me to rock back and forth and won't get lucky in the village of Pesochny,” the woman answered.
The woman skeptically rejected my offer to take a taxi (then still ordinary, not social).
A few days ago, a classmate approached me with a paradoxical request: to help her acquaintance with an oncological patient who does not want to accept anyone's help.
Despite my busy schedule, I agreed to support a friend of my classmate without repayment and indicated when there are the nearest windows for lunch and dinner between my consultation and my phone number.
The woman did not call or write, but to my classmate she graciously replied:
"Let your psychologist call me herself!"
Consider me as cruel as you like, but I didn't call myself.
Once I helped cancer patients for free, but then I stopped doing it
Following the reasons stated in the publication:
I finally realized that a person either takes responsibility for changes in his life and then the Universe helps him with the help of people, or no one will do it.
I would like to return to the magical thinking of the Inner Child and, in fact, to the belief in a Miracle
It is real, it works only if you have faith in yourself.
When I arrived at Matronushka's in May 2014, Moscow was covered by a snow storm and dispersed almost all the pilgrims, so I got there in just 15 minutes. Many hours of standing in line, then my back would not have held it.
When I approached the attendant to buy candles, she gave me an almost contemptuous look and said that she was leaving for dinner. I had to get into a new line, which, after a rapidly flying storm, grew exponentially.
I got used to the fact that no one recognizes a cancer patient in me even in the clinic, when two old women declared me the mistress of the head of the department in civilian clothes, with light makeup and high heels:
"I settled in a healthy woman."
To this day, no one gives way to me in transport, does not go for any indulgences, in anything! Therefore, I take my documents with me. when I understand that I cannot survive otherwise. The church woman looked at my statement with disbelief and let me in.
P. S … What is Faith in Miracles and when does it work? I think that you have already guessed yourself and this applies not only to illness, but also to any difficult life situation.
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