2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We all know perfectly well, we have read and heard millions of times - the emotional state of an adult is transmitted to a child. If the mother is in anxiety or anger, the child will also be in anxiety and anger. This is the exchange process and there is no getting away from it. This does not mean that parents should always and in everything control themselves, it is desirable that adults understand at least something about their mood and know how to designate it to the child.
When parents hear about children's inpatient treatment, they fall into chronic anxiety and fears, which greatly interferes with adequately responding and behaving correctly (we are not talking about serious illnesses). Often behind such a doctor's appointment there may be another or additional examination or a rechecking of an earlier diagnosis, but for parents this does not matter much. Alarmed, frightened, with a feeling of something incomprehensible, the mother leaves the child in the hospital. With a parental feeling of "scary", the child goes to the hospital. His personal anxiety is added to his mother's, to his personal fears (change of the familiar environment, separation from home) is added to his mother's fear. He carries this emotional burden all the days of inpatient treatment. Adaptive capabilities and stress resistance against such an emotional background decrease, and doctors are often lost - an almost healthy child, but the behavior is capricious, tearful, alert, and often defiant and aggressive (as a defensive reaction). Children do not understand what they are doing in the hospital, every hour they call their parents or demand from the medical staff to contact their mother and she will pick him up. If during the examination it turns out that treatment is needed, such an emotional state of the child does not work in the best way on the recovery process. Taking medications or necessary procedures is accompanied by scandals and conflicts. Never before has fear and an aggressive attitude helped a treatment or a full examination.
How to be?
If there is a need for inpatient treatment for children, it is important that the parents themselves be able to tune in positively, and also to tune the child, who then will much more easily endure separation from parents and separation from home. If your parents' anxiety and fear go off scale, contact a specialist psychologist, perhaps right now your childhood trauma is vibrating. Often these parents say: “I don’t want to leave the child!”. Be sure to explain to your child why, why and for how long you leave him in the hospital. More than once I heard from children: “So they will take me away? So, they didn’t leave me!”. You all understand and know this, but children have a different organ. You should not call every hour and demand a report. Your child is not in the forest, the medical staff performs their tasks, in which case they will always contact you, for this they write down your phone number in a personal card.
Teach your child independence, do not tie to yourself remotely, morning and evening calls are enough. Give your child the opportunity to open up to a new experience, albeit a sick one, you must admit this is also important. Communication and interaction with doctors, other patients, a special daily routine, responsibility for taking medications and the procedures performed, all this will go to the personal piggy bank of growing up.
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