2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Own place
We are taught that we must necessarily occupy the best places - a prestigious job, a high position, money, status. We are taught - this is the guarantee of happiness and survival. Like animals in a flock, the fittest survives, and then everyone strives to become a leader, to receive all the benefits. We climb out of our own skin, walk over our heads, forget our true nature - who we are and why all this is happening at all. We become as if blinded by this passion - to achieve, conquer, become the best, conquer.
But at the same time, inside a person most often feels such an aching-pulling feeling, as if you are “not up to..” all the time. And of course, there is definitely someone who has achieved more, and because of this, it seems better than you, and therefore happier. As if your happiness depends on some numbers and parameters, and you can simply measure it with a ruler - if you reach this value, you are happy, if you do not achieve it, you are not.
It's amazing, no matter how many peaks a person conquers, he never reaches the mark of "happiness." It is as if such a hungry beast lives in him that is never satisfied. No matter how much you do and no matter what you achieve, he shouts all the time - not enough! As a result, a person devotes his whole life to the endless pursuit of ghostly "happiness", which he never achieves. There are thousands of stories of socially successful people who never really became happy. They had both public recognition and money and power and everything they would not want, but they never received a state of inner peace, a state of inner satisfaction and happiness.
Is there a way out - yes. It turns out that we do not need all the blessings of the world and not all prestigious places in the world, but it is the only "its" place. The place that's right for you. The place where you feel - this is it! This is exactly for me! It is easy and pleasant for you, everything goes well, to argue, people like your work.
It's funny that most often we either pass by such places or leave them ourselves, in pursuit of those "magical" foreign places. Or we are afraid. to admit to myself that this, so simple and so ordinary, is my place. The place where I will feel peace and happiness in my soul, where I will be able to see the sky, sincerely smile, openly look into the eyes of another.
But the inner critic trained during our growing up, more often than not, does not allow us to admit it to ourselves. And he continues to demand and demand and demand an endless race. And inside everything is growing a pulling feeling "Not that …".
And sometimes it's just scary. It's scary to allow yourself to realize your dream, it's scary to openly tell the whole world what you want. and suddenly they do not understand, but suddenly they laugh. After all, a true dream is most often quite non-standard, there are no beaten paths to it, it requires perseverance and courage. And then many simply fold. After all, it seems that it is easier to remain on the firm ground of socially acceptable and recognized norms and rules. But time passes, social heights conquer, and that aching feeling just scratches the soul … "not that …"
Or maybe you should allow yourself to stop being afraid, clinging, chasing and take the most ordinary or the most unusual, but such a happily place?
With love, Varvara Gladkikh
Consulting with soul and soul
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